He is so right
From my inbox:
L,
After reading a couple of posts that sound like you're getting hit from all sides, I wanted to check in with you. You need to give yourself a break, not rush things, and above all listen to yourself.I've not been taking that advice myself lately. :) I've been going through a round of crud - after M there was the issue with my friend C that I told you about. After that, I'm now in the middle of exams. There's nowhere "safe", work is f'ed up, school is crazy hard, and I'm questioning my ability to have a relationship with another human ever again. Add to that my biological clock (who knew men had one?) and you could interpret my life to be a big freaking waste of everyone's time.
I've decided to give myself a break. Sounds like you could maybe use one too. I don't mean I'm swearing off members of the opposite sex or anything. I just mean that I'm going to stop trying to fit each new piece of garbage into the larger pile. I'm going to listen to my inner voice, but not the negative one. When I start to spin out, I just try to focus on putting one foot in front of the other and making sure that I try to grow and enjoy life when possible.
I'm sorry things are the way they are right now. The way you were feeling and talking before will come back. Next time you feel something like that it will be with the right person. I'm sure that relationship is still much in your thoughts, but look at it as a dress rehearsal. The important thing is that you're ready for that kind of depth in a relationship, and you'll know it when you find it again.That whole life is a journey BS is unfortunately true. I think maybe some of the energy you felt for the relationship was about transitioning out of where you are. That's still available to you, and still something to look forward to.
Sorry if I'm way off base or nosy. I thought maybe you'd like to talk, and butting in is the way I start conversations. :-) Hang in there. You're absolutely great - always remember that.
S
I just wish my inner voice would shut the fuck up. It's really starting to get on my damn nerves. And I'm fucking tired of moping around like my fucking dog died. (I'm pretty sure everyone else is tired of it too) I need to find a fucking life. If anyone has a spare, could you toss it this way? I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
L,
After reading a couple of posts that sound like you're getting hit from all sides, I wanted to check in with you. You need to give yourself a break, not rush things, and above all listen to yourself.I've not been taking that advice myself lately. :) I've been going through a round of crud - after M there was the issue with my friend C that I told you about. After that, I'm now in the middle of exams. There's nowhere "safe", work is f'ed up, school is crazy hard, and I'm questioning my ability to have a relationship with another human ever again. Add to that my biological clock (who knew men had one?) and you could interpret my life to be a big freaking waste of everyone's time.
I've decided to give myself a break. Sounds like you could maybe use one too. I don't mean I'm swearing off members of the opposite sex or anything. I just mean that I'm going to stop trying to fit each new piece of garbage into the larger pile. I'm going to listen to my inner voice, but not the negative one. When I start to spin out, I just try to focus on putting one foot in front of the other and making sure that I try to grow and enjoy life when possible.
I'm sorry things are the way they are right now. The way you were feeling and talking before will come back. Next time you feel something like that it will be with the right person. I'm sure that relationship is still much in your thoughts, but look at it as a dress rehearsal. The important thing is that you're ready for that kind of depth in a relationship, and you'll know it when you find it again.That whole life is a journey BS is unfortunately true. I think maybe some of the energy you felt for the relationship was about transitioning out of where you are. That's still available to you, and still something to look forward to.
Sorry if I'm way off base or nosy. I thought maybe you'd like to talk, and butting in is the way I start conversations. :-) Hang in there. You're absolutely great - always remember that.
S
I just wish my inner voice would shut the fuck up. It's really starting to get on my damn nerves. And I'm fucking tired of moping around like my fucking dog died. (I'm pretty sure everyone else is tired of it too) I need to find a fucking life. If anyone has a spare, could you toss it this way? I'd appreciate it. Thanks.