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For the longest time (and I still struggle with this!) after I joined the eGroups, I wondered why it was that no one wanted to acknowledge me. Or, maybe acknowledge isn't the right word. I don't know. Anyway, it was like I would post a question and I would get answers, but not public on the list itself - I always get them at my regular email address. And I thought, was it such an elementary question that they didn't want to embarrass themselves by answering publicly? They didn't want anyone else to know they were even bothering with me? I thought I should write to one of them and ask why I always got a private email rather than a public post. I've never had the courage to do that - (lol) because I don't want to know the answer ... or more truthful, because I have already supplied the answer.
We do that to ourselves, you know? We get a single idea in our heads and because we don't reach out and ask or talk to the person or confront the person - or whatever - we build this entire scenario and it is build on our imaginations. The more active our imagination the bigger "story" we can build. Probably the greatest and most freeing lesson I have learned thus far in life, is honesty. First with self, then with others. (You can see I still struggle with it sometimes!) I learned that, for the most part, people are pretty loving and if you actually talk to them (without making them defensive!), then you find out whatever it was that motivated them to do what they did, had nothing to do with you!
Don't even ask where this entry was going ... somewhere along the line I lost track! It was about being "seen" by other people. I'll have to come back to it!
We do that to ourselves, you know? We get a single idea in our heads and because we don't reach out and ask or talk to the person or confront the person - or whatever - we build this entire scenario and it is build on our imaginations. The more active our imagination the bigger "story" we can build. Probably the greatest and most freeing lesson I have learned thus far in life, is honesty. First with self, then with others. (You can see I still struggle with it sometimes!) I learned that, for the most part, people are pretty loving and if you actually talk to them (without making them defensive!), then you find out whatever it was that motivated them to do what they did, had nothing to do with you!
Don't even ask where this entry was going ... somewhere along the line I lost track! It was about being "seen" by other people. I'll have to come back to it!