Go It Alone

[teratomas]

I will never forget the day it happened. I was oh, sixteen, maybe seventeen, around that age where everything you do seems illuminated by a spotlight and broadcast for all the world to see. Importantly, I was also around the age where, if an event seemed appealing to me, I was allowed to leave the house to attend it and actually drive myself there

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[dayglow]

I think it's important for everyone to be able to do 'non-solo' things alone sometimes. In my case, it's usually concerts. 99% of the time, Davin or someone else can come with me, but that 1%? Why should I NOT go? Nobody's paying attention to me. We're there to see the band. It's even easier with local bands because it is very likely I will run into people I know there. So next Tuesday, I'm going to see the Killigans with or without anyone. Cause I wanna see the Killigans.

Plus, you could always go the opposite way. When I was dating/living with my ex, I wouldn't even go grocery shopping alone. (Now, I prefer it. Davin takes fucking for-ever and always ends up with a whole lot of nothing we really need and forgets the one specific thing we went to get.) As you can imagine, being mentally unable to go grocery shopping alone was a problem. I wouldn't say it was co-dependency but... too close for comfort.

Edited to add: Forgot that I was rambling about me again and that's rude. Anyway, I hope you really enjoy your movie. Alone and quiet. :)

[teratomas]

Hehe, you are sweet to have added the edit. Although I appreciate the sentiment, in this case it was cool to read examples of how you too like to venture out and do "non-solo" things alone. I tip my hat at you for the Killigan's venture, for concerts still remain a little hard for me to go by myself to. On the other hand, youre right - everyone SHOULD be there to see the band, which means that if you go alone, you have more of an ability to focus in on just that.

I really think there is a tie between people who can't do anything alone and low self-esteem. If you get THAT freaked out in public by yourself, you gotta reevaluate your own self-confidence and agency in the world.