Dilemma as old as humanity, just simply made worse since the internet. The number of people who take their opinions way too strongly in public is just ugh. :|
For now, I'll pick the generic angle, since I'd rather not touch the particular subject you're talking about at this time (sexuality being one of the 4 taboo topics I try to avoid discussing openly).
The price of being a member of society is that every once in a while, you'll have to hear the opinion of someone you disagree with. On the one hand, it's unfortunate that everyone can't agree with each other, but on the other hand, the world would be boring otherwise.
You can, if you so choose, unfollow or not display those people who you believe to be unusually strident in their opinions all the time. But honestly, the far better tactic is to just scroll past if you can't take it, or else actually read it, consider it in context of what you know, and either apply it or solidly deny it.
If the solution to not wanting to deal with disagreement is to cut yourself off from socializing, it's not going to be healthy in the long run. No need for a nuclear option when a precision surgical strike is sufficient.
Also know that there are some people out there to whom it's possible to have a fair and reasonable debate on opinions with. Though generally, that forum shouldn't be the internet.
I think the issue for me at this point is that I've done exactly that (scroll past the stuff) for months and months... to the point where if I'm not discussing these topics, I feel out of touch with facebook friends. And these are supposed to be my friends so I should be able to express myself freely right?
Another thing that has been happening is that a person makes a comment irl and they act as if their opinion is the expected/normal/right one. And then everyone in the group mostly agrees so I could speak up and express myself, but I'd really rather just ignore the opinion. But then I feel like people are missing out on a part of me.
All in all, I think I just have an extreme aversion to argument/disagreement because of a childhood where my parents argued almost everyday. As a matter of fact, they still do. -_-;
For now, I'll pick the generic angle, since I'd rather not touch the particular subject you're talking about at this time (sexuality being one of the 4 taboo topics I try to avoid discussing openly).
The price of being a member of society is that every once in a while, you'll have to hear the opinion of someone you disagree with. On the one hand, it's unfortunate that everyone can't agree with each other, but on the other hand, the world would be boring otherwise.
You can, if you so choose, unfollow or not display those people who you believe to be unusually strident in their opinions all the time. But honestly, the far better tactic is to just scroll past if you can't take it, or else actually read it, consider it in context of what you know, and either apply it or solidly deny it.
If the solution to not wanting to deal with disagreement is to cut yourself off from socializing, it's not going to be healthy in the long run. No need for a nuclear option when a precision surgical strike is sufficient.
Also know that there are some people out there to whom it's possible to have a fair and reasonable debate on opinions with. Though generally, that forum shouldn't be the internet.
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Another thing that has been happening is that a person makes a comment irl and they act as if their opinion is the expected/normal/right one. And then everyone in the group mostly agrees so I could speak up and express myself, but I'd really rather just ignore the opinion. But then I feel like people are missing out on a part of me.
All in all, I think I just have an extreme aversion to argument/disagreement because of a childhood where my parents argued almost everyday. As a matter of fact, they still do. -_-;
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