I somehow stumbled today from reading Autostraddle's NSFW Sunday to reading an advice article for mums who are trying to have "the talk" with their daughters
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I think that's an awesome attitude towards sex ed that your family has, and it's such a healthy one as well. I don't think that anything makes kids feel like there is something wrong with sex and sexuality more than their own parents completely ignoring the fact that eventually their children will be teenagers and adults and have the wants and needs of them.
I had a lot of friends in high school would would flat out not even be around us when we had a conversation about sex. I've always had a crazy high sex drive and no qualms about sex. The only real problem that I have is a lack of body confidence, which I'm well on my way to sorting out.
I'd really like to be able to start that kind of dialogue with my mum, because the older I get the closer we get, but I haven't come out to her yet, and because she grew up in a very Catholic house, she is very much of the mind that sex stays in the bedroom between two people. I do, however, have that kind of relationship with my godmother and we're both really open with each other about everything.
I want there to be 500x more education on LGBT safer sex. I'd been having girl sex for 2 years before anyone told me that chicks should have safe sex to. And maybe that was a lot of naive teenage behaviour on my part, but it needs to be taught.
I think it's a pretty awesome attitude, yeah. It's actually really funny because my mom and her sister are basically the same person who spend every day together yet my cousins have no body or sex confidence at all. And we were all raised together. Apparently your body image and self-esteem is tied to your father so there's that. In my personal journey I found that the people who love you are going to continue to love you no matter what you look like and potential partners are going to get crushes based on you not your body too.
I hear that a lot about people with parents with Catholic upbringing, that there's a very conservative, compartmentalized mentality towards sex. And a reticence to broach the sex and, specifically, gay sex topics. (I went to school in a backwater place where everyone was very, very French Catholic)
Oh man, how much do I wish there was more LGBT education in general. I think there's a greater chance of pigs flying then that being taught in school which is a rather depressing thought. :/
I've always found it weird that while I'm not particularly body confident, I am sex-confident. Although it's a whole different story when you get drunk and try to lose your virginity, only to be thrown out of the guys room because you didn't want to blow him. 17 year old me was so great :S
The only way that I got any kind of LGBT sex ed was because I actively saught out an LBGT youth group and part of what they do is actual proper sex ed for LGBT teens. I mean, I knew all about condoms and the pill and the morning-after pill, and I knew that gay guys needed to have safe sex because they were at a higher risk of aids, but I pretty much just thought in my teen stupidity that girls who had sex with other girls didn't have to worry about any of that stuff, and by the time I found out I was sexually active with other girls.
Oh. There is the cute gay manager at work who isn't a douche. But I had an almost argument with one of the other shift managers today about evolution and the bible, of all things. I said something about Adam and Eve and he goes, yeah, but it wasn't Adam and Steve and I just went 'dude. you do not even want to go there with me. do not.'
You're suddenly making me feel very glad that my brother and his friends are all really gay friendly. I don't think I could take it if his bros weren't like that.
I just can't associate with those people. I'm not a good people person in general but I used to have to be civil to people who worked for the Knights of Columbus for work and that almost killed me.
I had a lot of friends in high school would would flat out not even be around us when we had a conversation about sex. I've always had a crazy high sex drive and no qualms about sex. The only real problem that I have is a lack of body confidence, which I'm well on my way to sorting out.
I'd really like to be able to start that kind of dialogue with my mum, because the older I get the closer we get, but I haven't come out to her yet, and because she grew up in a very Catholic house, she is very much of the mind that sex stays in the bedroom between two people. I do, however, have that kind of relationship with my godmother and we're both really open with each other about everything.
I want there to be 500x more education on LGBT safer sex. I'd been having girl sex for 2 years before anyone told me that chicks should have safe sex to. And maybe that was a lot of naive teenage behaviour on my part, but it needs to be taught.
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I hear that a lot about people with parents with Catholic upbringing, that there's a very conservative, compartmentalized mentality towards sex. And a reticence to broach the sex and, specifically, gay sex topics. (I went to school in a backwater place where everyone was very, very French Catholic)
Oh man, how much do I wish there was more LGBT education in general. I think there's a greater chance of pigs flying then that being taught in school which is a rather depressing thought. :/
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The only way that I got any kind of LGBT sex ed was because I actively saught out an LBGT youth group and part of what they do is actual proper sex ed for LGBT teens. I mean, I knew all about condoms and the pill and the morning-after pill, and I knew that gay guys needed to have safe sex because they were at a higher risk of aids, but I pretty much just thought in my teen stupidity that girls who had sex with other girls didn't have to worry about any of that stuff, and by the time I found out I was sexually active with other girls.
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I just can't associate with those people. I'm not a good people person in general but I used to have to be civil to people who worked for the Knights of Columbus for work and that almost killed me.
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