On being "under the weather"

[teine]

I haven't written a serious journal entry in a while, but there is a reason for that. Things in my working life caught up with me hard, and I've been stressed, a bit depressed, and suffering for it. I have been working on putting things right, but I'm only just starting to get there now.

Things with my wonderful ruine_ have been great though, and it's

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A different view

[elf_master]

Having broken my shoulder two weeks ago and having had a cold for the last half .... I can relate.

I have taken a slightly different approach. The D/s was turned down for me. For the first week I simply didn't have the energy to be the intense Dom we know and love. Being sick and injured has made D/s not very appealing either. She has given me much love and support and I have shown my appreciation, but we've both missed the D/s.

However, I have pushed myself to grab onto the moments. When the mood strikes, I can give her our special look and we both drop. While she has been doing many things for me recently, the ones that we did before, our rituals, take on special significance. One night I was feeling good enough to play - so we did. It was awkward (imagine swinging a flogger with one arm in a sling), but I managed it. It was often frustrating for me, but it felt good. To be honest the times I can dom have become more intense for it's general lacking.

So while I know the D/s will return to how it used to be - my advice is to push for it whenever you're able. The taste can be very sweet when D/s must only be a special treat - it is worth the energy.

Re: A different view

[teine]

Oh, we have had those moments, definately. I know I only mentioned them in passing, but they have been there. The special look, the fingers on the back of her neck, reminders.. And in vanilla(ish) sex, those currents of D/s are still there, sometimes.

So, I agree entirely. Those special treats are wonderful, much more intense than they would normally be.