Biphobia (part 1)

[teine]

Just before pshrew visited, I had a phone call that brought lots of things I'd been meaning to write about for a while, bursting up to the surface of my mind. I couldn't not write it any more.. I made notes, I determined to post last weekend.. And of course, the flow of events overtook me, and it's taken till now to write it. But now, with a cooler mind

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[f_l_i_r_t]

I can't bloody believe it, talk about ironic. Geesh! *sigh*

I always say that lesbians/gay men are always more judgemental of bisexuals then straight people tend to be. I have had a few bad experiences with militant lesbians telling me I was dillusional a bad name to all...blah, blah, blah.

I just don't understand it at all. I mean can people not be just sexual. As in love anyone and everyone for the person they are irregardless of sexual persuasion or orientation.

How hurtful, to invest time and care and be so supportive to him, to have the door slammed in your face 'figuratively speaking', so quickly. *sigh*

Just another negative reminder of other peoples ignorance and fear, don't let it sink into your skin too much. *supportive hugs*

[teine]

I always say that lesbians/gay men are always more judgemental of bisexuals then straight people tend to be.

Actually, I don't agree with that. As a male bisexual, my reaction from lesbians and gay men is likely to be disengagement, critisism, or walking away from me. Possibly argument. From straight men, there's a good chance the response may be violent - and I can think of a good number of kink-related social events where bisexual males are particularly unwelcome, while females are virtually expected to be bisexual.

Towards female bisexuals, you are probably right. "Hot bi babes" are fashionable, after all :)

[f_l_i_r_t]

I have always wondered why bisexuality amongst women is so much more accepted even encouraged on some level, but between men it is not.

Is it the whole sodomy thing, left over moralistic clap trap from the bible and the idea of sodomy? Obviously women with the aid of a strap-on can sodomize eachother, but most do not think of penetration when imagining two women together, or do they?

I don't and never wil understand the double standard. I think two men together is extremely erotic and even a bit mystical or magical, hard to explain. One of my fantasies would be to be openly invited into the intamacey of two men, one day. *soft smile*

[teine]

It's a pretty typical reaction for me. If I end up talking to some nice guy in a gay club, chances are, the second I mention Im bisexual, he'll walk away. Or possibly just say, "You don't get male bisexuals, you're just confused.", and then walk away.

People don't tend to argue the point with me, they just disengage.

[cubanchic]

ahhhh ***hugs*** I;ve seen this before with my lesbian friends, and it's hurtfull that even though you are perfectly at ease with thier sexual perference but if you are bi then they have a probelm with you.

I suppose this is part one and I am hoping that this gentleman later did call you back and admit what an ASS he was. But if he didn't I did detect a hint of some "caution" as it should be with a complete stranger coming from you. What was most hurtfull was that you both got along so well in the beginning and that freindship would have been worthwhile if that alone. Was he offer of friendship only if YOU didn't want to take it further false? UGGGH!! Sorry but not liking this chap at all.

[teine]

Nope. Part 2 will be a general history of my bisexuality, and experiences with biphobia.

[webkat]

Eeble... Talk about low self esteem/confidence. In him not you, my sweet.

Oh dear, the poor blighter. It seems prejudice occurs everywhere in the world and sometimes from the places you leats expect it. Though from what I just read and my dire mind, I can almost imagine it's not a prejudice but a fear. Fear that.. well.. this guy has 100% of the population to fight over instead of 50%. He already seemed to make his point that things have gone metaphorically tits up, scared and with 0 self assurance he probably couldn't stand to get wound up over someone he thinks would leave him.. because he believes himself to be less than equal to anyone else in the populas.

Of course he could just be a prejudice bastwitch.. in which case. **just laughs** I ain't got nothing but laughter for him and a flash of my tits as I run past with boys & girls.

**hugs & space hoppers off with a very immature mental state in mind**

[teine]

I ain't got nothing but laughter for him and a flash of my tits as I run past with boys & girls.

ooh, can I have that too? :)

[webkat]

he he... won't you be running with me :oP

[sshrew]

Your theory makes sense to me -- that he was reacting to fear and not prejudice.

He focused on the probability of rejection, teine; he expected it. Perhaps, in an odd way, he even desired it. If you live with a fear for too long, it can sometimes encourage you to manipulate emotionally risky situations toward a safe outcome.

Perhaps it's easier for him to accept rejection based on his physical handicap than it is to risk being rejected based on who he is on the inside. He took the first excuse he could find and ran with it.

[lirpa_nwaf]

Wow that was a surprising end, to say the least.