I don't know what to do
I'm visiting flushing for a whole week, and the first day i'm here, I feel helpless.
My mom broke up with her long time boyfriend a few weeks ago, and now, because of some "stuff," she's suddenly and violently thrown herself into a fit of depression. I'm not talking the "wearing a bathrobe, randomly crying, and sitting on the couch watching soap operas" kind of depression or the "listening to sappy or emo love songs, writing crappy poetry, and randomly crying" depression. This is the "sleeps in her dark room only emerging to vomit and get a cold compress for a splitting headache, randomly crying" depression.
I've only seen this once before, and that was when my parents divorced the first time when I was in 7th or 8th grade. At 13 years old, its a terrifying thing to see your mother, who has never given any indication of being weak or irrational before, crumble away to nothing.
I'm 22 years old now and should be capable of taking care of my mother. I know what the problem is now. I've dealt with my share of ex-boyfriends. But none like this. I imagine it is how I would feel if Mike and I suddenly broke up and I found out most of our relationship was false. (That's not necessarily what happened in my mom's case, but I'm pretty sure I would feel really really crappy).
I just don't know what to do. I feel my mom should get out of her room, maybe watch some tv, or something. But she has been out to my grandma's all day. And this is day one. maybe day two will be better. I mean, the first time, the relationship was 15 years of marriage, and this one was 5 years of anti-marriage...
any advice?
My mom broke up with her long time boyfriend a few weeks ago, and now, because of some "stuff," she's suddenly and violently thrown herself into a fit of depression. I'm not talking the "wearing a bathrobe, randomly crying, and sitting on the couch watching soap operas" kind of depression or the "listening to sappy or emo love songs, writing crappy poetry, and randomly crying" depression. This is the "sleeps in her dark room only emerging to vomit and get a cold compress for a splitting headache, randomly crying" depression.
I've only seen this once before, and that was when my parents divorced the first time when I was in 7th or 8th grade. At 13 years old, its a terrifying thing to see your mother, who has never given any indication of being weak or irrational before, crumble away to nothing.
I'm 22 years old now and should be capable of taking care of my mother. I know what the problem is now. I've dealt with my share of ex-boyfriends. But none like this. I imagine it is how I would feel if Mike and I suddenly broke up and I found out most of our relationship was false. (That's not necessarily what happened in my mom's case, but I'm pretty sure I would feel really really crappy).
I just don't know what to do. I feel my mom should get out of her room, maybe watch some tv, or something. But she has been out to my grandma's all day. And this is day one. maybe day two will be better. I mean, the first time, the relationship was 15 years of marriage, and this one was 5 years of anti-marriage...
any advice?