Sociology 101: Entry 7
Chapter 12: Would you ever allow your parents, family and/or close friends to arrange a marriage for you? What about matchmaking services e.g. match.com or eHarmony.com? Would you be open to using their services? What are the disadvantages of relying on our own contacts and judgment when it comes to finding a long term romantic partner?
I'm a romantic. I want to meet The One at a casual setting -- an accidental meeting -- and I want us to develop a great love story, marry, have a lovely house (possibly made of river rock.), three kids, two cats and a dog, and live out the rest of our lives with a relatively normal and natural level of drama.
That's the daydream, but I know it's not going to happen that way. I would love meet the person on my own, I feel like a decent judge of character and I do not stand for bullshit very long. But if I never meet the right person, but someone I know does and sends them my way...
Well, if my parent or certain members of my family were the ones to arrange date, engagement, and/or marriage with someone they thought I could spend the rest of my life with, I would at least meet the person. See where it goes. I may not show the whole side of myself to these members of myself, but they've known me all my life. They've probably figured out the rest of me based on what I've told them.
I trust them to find me someone I won't grow to hate, has a stable job, shares intrests of mine but has their own life, and will help around the house. It might not satisfy the romantic in me, but I'd rather that then live alone forever.
Friends though? I would allow them to recommend dates and I'd meet the person, but they do not know the whole side of me. I have friends through interests, and they only see that one interest in my life, and I don't want my future spouse to be chosen based off that one piece of my life.
Internet sites I would have to say no to. I mean, if I meet someone through DA, LJ or even AO3/FF, then sure why not, but through matchmaker programs? Even if they've got excellent reviews and my sister finds her goddamn soulmate through it, I don't feel that a program without a certain degree of creativity, imagination or intinct would be able to find my ideal match. I don't want 23+ close matches. I'm too lazy for that.
I'm a romantic. I want to meet The One at a casual setting -- an accidental meeting -- and I want us to develop a great love story, marry, have a lovely house (possibly made of river rock.), three kids, two cats and a dog, and live out the rest of our lives with a relatively normal and natural level of drama.
That's the daydream, but I know it's not going to happen that way. I would love meet the person on my own, I feel like a decent judge of character and I do not stand for bullshit very long. But if I never meet the right person, but someone I know does and sends them my way...
Well, if my parent or certain members of my family were the ones to arrange date, engagement, and/or marriage with someone they thought I could spend the rest of my life with, I would at least meet the person. See where it goes. I may not show the whole side of myself to these members of myself, but they've known me all my life. They've probably figured out the rest of me based on what I've told them.
I trust them to find me someone I won't grow to hate, has a stable job, shares intrests of mine but has their own life, and will help around the house. It might not satisfy the romantic in me, but I'd rather that then live alone forever.
Friends though? I would allow them to recommend dates and I'd meet the person, but they do not know the whole side of me. I have friends through interests, and they only see that one interest in my life, and I don't want my future spouse to be chosen based off that one piece of my life.
Internet sites I would have to say no to. I mean, if I meet someone through DA, LJ or even AO3/FF, then sure why not, but through matchmaker programs? Even if they've got excellent reviews and my sister finds her goddamn soulmate through it, I don't feel that a program without a certain degree of creativity, imagination or intinct would be able to find my ideal match. I don't want 23+ close matches. I'm too lazy for that.