Self-Improvement
My two chavarot are very generous with their compliments and commented that I really was a “friendly lady” which is interesting because I had been thinking about writing a list of things I could do to become a better person. When I mentioned this to my block away friend who tends to be generous with his sarcasm, he said, “wow, you’ve got your work cut out for you”. Hmph!
So here is my list so far:
1. Be more aware of elderly/handicapped people on the bus so I can give them my seat.
2. Stop loshen hora (a generic Hebrew term for gossip, encompassing all negative talk about others).
3. Put spare bills I will spend on crap anyway in the tzedukah (charity) box
4. Call my grandparents once a week or at least send them e-mails.
5. Let the children I don’t like who live next door come visit the cats and puppy more often rather than pretending I don't hear the door bell.
6. Clean my apartment so people can sit comfortably without getting covered in cat hair.
7. Bring flowers or wine to friends' houses when they invite me over for shabbos meals.
8. Slow down when walking on crowded streets instead of pushing/bumping people in my way.
9. Exchange more pleasantries with cashiers when shopping
10. Actually listen to my friends' problems instead of just thinking about what I’ll say next.
That should be enough for now, I mean, I can’t go crazy but I have noticed I’ve been getting into silly fights with strangers lately. Like, this past week I walked into Dunkin Donuts and ordered an iced caramel cappuccino and then I noticed the hot headed, bossy, manager lady was making a coolata. So I sweetly told her that I wanted an iced cappuccino and she rudely asked me why I said coolata and told me not to order until I made up my mind so I calmly told the bitch I did order a cappuccino knowing full well she confused the caramel part of the order with the word coolata even though I had pointed to the picture of my order. Then she had the nerve to say “now you say cappuccino but before you said coolata” so I got mad and asked her why we were fighting about what I said or didn’t say because I want an iced caramel cappuccino and she knows that now. Then she asks me what she is supposed to do with the coolata (as if I care) like I should be insulted by her question. Meanwhile, a line grows behind me.
As she was making my correct order I loudly said “you must love working with her” to the staff and they smiled at me sympathetically, which is more than I can say for my block away friend who had walked in after all the commotion. I told Mr Sarcastic that we got in a big fight but he still acted super nice to the idiot, asking her how she was, saying please and thank you, making love to her, tipping (which is spit spelled backwards), etc. This is not the first time I have seen her fudge up orders, by the way. (I will really have to work on No. 2 and 9 on this list.) Then he got much more chocolate in his mocha than I had caramel.
Does the barista still think I’m a friendly lady or is the customer not always right?
So here is my list so far:
1. Be more aware of elderly/handicapped people on the bus so I can give them my seat.
2. Stop loshen hora (a generic Hebrew term for gossip, encompassing all negative talk about others).
3. Put spare bills I will spend on crap anyway in the tzedukah (charity) box
4. Call my grandparents once a week or at least send them e-mails.
5. Let the children I don’t like who live next door come visit the cats and puppy more often rather than pretending I don't hear the door bell.
6. Clean my apartment so people can sit comfortably without getting covered in cat hair.
7. Bring flowers or wine to friends' houses when they invite me over for shabbos meals.
8. Slow down when walking on crowded streets instead of pushing/bumping people in my way.
9. Exchange more pleasantries with cashiers when shopping
10. Actually listen to my friends' problems instead of just thinking about what I’ll say next.
That should be enough for now, I mean, I can’t go crazy but I have noticed I’ve been getting into silly fights with strangers lately. Like, this past week I walked into Dunkin Donuts and ordered an iced caramel cappuccino and then I noticed the hot headed, bossy, manager lady was making a coolata. So I sweetly told her that I wanted an iced cappuccino and she rudely asked me why I said coolata and told me not to order until I made up my mind so I calmly told the bitch I did order a cappuccino knowing full well she confused the caramel part of the order with the word coolata even though I had pointed to the picture of my order. Then she had the nerve to say “now you say cappuccino but before you said coolata” so I got mad and asked her why we were fighting about what I said or didn’t say because I want an iced caramel cappuccino and she knows that now. Then she asks me what she is supposed to do with the coolata (as if I care) like I should be insulted by her question. Meanwhile, a line grows behind me.
As she was making my correct order I loudly said “you must love working with her” to the staff and they smiled at me sympathetically, which is more than I can say for my block away friend who had walked in after all the commotion. I told Mr Sarcastic that we got in a big fight but he still acted super nice to the idiot, asking her how she was, saying please and thank you, making love to her, tipping (which is spit spelled backwards), etc. This is not the first time I have seen her fudge up orders, by the way. (I will really have to work on No. 2 and 9 on this list.) Then he got much more chocolate in his mocha than I had caramel.
Does the barista still think I’m a friendly lady or is the customer not always right?