Marriage
Today’s topic is marriage. Look at all you men running away! You marriageaphobics you.
Ahh, marriage. The holy matrimony of two people “til death do you part”. I've been thinking about it....
What kind of marriage do I want to be in? Honestly, I want to be like my parents’ with a few alterations of course. Including their 13 year age gap, they have nothing in common. Really, they don’t. They’re like total opposites (which confirms that opposites do attract). Oh yeah they both lived in Korea at one point or another, and they had the same kid. Me! Yeah, that’s about it.
But they’ve been married for 20 years and they still have these late night conversations at night (even at 3 in the morning!). My mom will giggle, my dad will laugh, and I used to lie in bed hearing all of this and think (some of the time even wanting to tell them to be quiet) but I think to myself, first of all “What could they possibly talk about at 3 in the morning???” and then, “After all that time, they still make each other laugh like that. Awwww.”
So a couple months ago my mom had brought up when I was going to get married. Now that I have a job and everything and I’m going to graduate soon, I guess she figured I was thinking about marriage. She claims, “All there’s left for you to do is get married! Hurry up so I can move to the countryside.”
Countryside? O_o “Um, alrighty then.”
Anyway, and then there’s some people who think I’m too young to be contemplating marriage, itching for me to get married, and some who claim “You’re going to be the first one to go!”. My thing whole stance on the “too young to get married” issue is, if it feels like the right time, then it is the right time, whether you’re young or old. I mean, I hear people say they want to get married when they’re 28 or something, but seriously, what are the chances you’re going to meet the person you’re going to be with for the rest of your life at 28 or over? Seems sort of impractical to me. So what if you meet the love of your life at 21? Yeah sure you can stay with them for 7 years until you’re 28, b/c it shouldn’t matter anyway if you think they’re “the one”, but chances are you could feel ready before then, and hey when you’re ready, you’re just ready, and there’s no age that can determine when that’s going to be.
So do I plan on having kids? Absolutely, but much later. I want to get married young but not have kids this young. I like the idea of being a hip mom, but I also would like to think I’ll still be just as hip when I’m really ready to make that commitment to another human being. And of course I have to make sure there’s no prospect of divorce in the future b/c after a kid, that’s it! In the meantime, I just borrow all my friends’ kids. It’s seriously the best birth control in the world. I’m so tired afterward. I’m like, “Okay, maybe we’ll push later back to later later.” (But before 35 of course - the clock is ticking!).
I’m going to make sure my wedding day is all about me. I always hear these stories like, “Well my dad invited 14 cousins who I never met.” Oh man! A wedding is for you and nobody else. I’m going to use the two years policy. If I haven’t talked to a particular person in two years or more, they’re off the list. Simple as that, and it’ll make things a whole lot easier for me. =)
Oh yes, speaking of weddings, there’s a wedding for me to plan! But it’s not mine!! ;)
Scary how much I know about weddings when I’m not even, well, married. And the scariest part is people trust me with them! And you know what, it’s freaking chaos! That is why my wedding is going to be planned by a certified wedding planner.
Some cute celebrity wedding photos:
Ahh, marriage. The holy matrimony of two people “til death do you part”. I've been thinking about it....
What kind of marriage do I want to be in? Honestly, I want to be like my parents’ with a few alterations of course. Including their 13 year age gap, they have nothing in common. Really, they don’t. They’re like total opposites (which confirms that opposites do attract). Oh yeah they both lived in Korea at one point or another, and they had the same kid. Me! Yeah, that’s about it.
But they’ve been married for 20 years and they still have these late night conversations at night (even at 3 in the morning!). My mom will giggle, my dad will laugh, and I used to lie in bed hearing all of this and think (some of the time even wanting to tell them to be quiet) but I think to myself, first of all “What could they possibly talk about at 3 in the morning???” and then, “After all that time, they still make each other laugh like that. Awwww.”
So a couple months ago my mom had brought up when I was going to get married. Now that I have a job and everything and I’m going to graduate soon, I guess she figured I was thinking about marriage. She claims, “All there’s left for you to do is get married! Hurry up so I can move to the countryside.”
Countryside? O_o “Um, alrighty then.”
Anyway, and then there’s some people who think I’m too young to be contemplating marriage, itching for me to get married, and some who claim “You’re going to be the first one to go!”. My thing whole stance on the “too young to get married” issue is, if it feels like the right time, then it is the right time, whether you’re young or old. I mean, I hear people say they want to get married when they’re 28 or something, but seriously, what are the chances you’re going to meet the person you’re going to be with for the rest of your life at 28 or over? Seems sort of impractical to me. So what if you meet the love of your life at 21? Yeah sure you can stay with them for 7 years until you’re 28, b/c it shouldn’t matter anyway if you think they’re “the one”, but chances are you could feel ready before then, and hey when you’re ready, you’re just ready, and there’s no age that can determine when that’s going to be.
So do I plan on having kids? Absolutely, but much later. I want to get married young but not have kids this young. I like the idea of being a hip mom, but I also would like to think I’ll still be just as hip when I’m really ready to make that commitment to another human being. And of course I have to make sure there’s no prospect of divorce in the future b/c after a kid, that’s it! In the meantime, I just borrow all my friends’ kids. It’s seriously the best birth control in the world. I’m so tired afterward. I’m like, “Okay, maybe we’ll push later back to later later.” (But before 35 of course - the clock is ticking!).
I’m going to make sure my wedding day is all about me. I always hear these stories like, “Well my dad invited 14 cousins who I never met.” Oh man! A wedding is for you and nobody else. I’m going to use the two years policy. If I haven’t talked to a particular person in two years or more, they’re off the list. Simple as that, and it’ll make things a whole lot easier for me. =)
Oh yes, speaking of weddings, there’s a wedding for me to plan! But it’s not mine!! ;)
Scary how much I know about weddings when I’m not even, well, married. And the scariest part is people trust me with them! And you know what, it’s freaking chaos! That is why my wedding is going to be planned by a certified wedding planner.
Some cute celebrity wedding photos: