Social Graces-HELP PLEASE

[tazladys]

Ok, so I am not always the best in the social graces thing-so I am in need of some suggestions/guidance here. Here's my situation: I am very interested in someone, but unsure as how to go forward from this point. I have been interested for quite sometime and just have kind of well,ya know...

Thanks Tons ;)

Comments

[anansi133]

all things being equal, if you know someone's interested in you, they themselves become more interesting.

If you found out someone was interested in you, would you think any less of them?

Hmmm... I suppose if the person you're interested in suffers from low self esteem, you may be in some trouble. But otherwise, you stand to lose nothing, and stand to gain something, from expressing an interest.

The only thing that commonly goes wrong when a crush is revealed, as far as I can tell, is the reveal is phrased as a demand, or even a request. "I am fascinated by you, and I want something from you" Fascination is fine, as far as it goes, but demands tend to feel exhausting. If you decide to let them know, put the ball squarely in their court and give them a good chunk of time to stew over it before asking for a response. That part is agony, but there's no getting around it.

After three days or a week of no contact, your object of desire should at least have an idea in their head how they might like to explore the possibility you've opened up for them. And if they're simply not interested, go ahead and feel devastated, but make it your problem, not theirs. You may still emerge with a friendship, if such is truly your wish.

Good luck! Crushes mostly suck, but once in a while I can enjoy a slow crush without even revealing it. And if I can't stand it, usually a non-demanding reveal can clear things straight up.

[tazladys]

Thank You! I am extremely grateful that we already have an established friendship that I have always cherished deeply.

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