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That you have a bad day is your own business to a point... That you take it out on one of my own makes it my business. Treat anyone like that again, whether they work directly with me or not, you'll quickly find yourself without anyone to cry to about it.
You work three days a week....
At a job that pays well for what it is....
Has benefits for workers who are NOT full-time...
Has ANY breaks at all besides lunch...
And is relatively safe.
You have the monetary means to own cats.
To have a dog.
To buy video games.
For a car.
For a cell phone.
For internet.
For cable.
And in the end, what really matters is that you have food and a roof over your head... And people who are willing to sit there and take it when you feel like taking out your problems on them. Yeah, everyone has a right to complain, but only as far as it isn't hurting other people. They're trying to support you, and if everything you need to realize is going to require a slap in the face, so be it.
Here goes.
It's not that nobody wants to hear it when you have a bad day... It's that you're mean, it's that you're nasty to them, and it's that you backhand them when they try to reach a hand out to you. Do you really think that people are telling you to look for something good in your day to HURT you? That they're trying to make you feel worse when you obviously feel bad already? Get a clue. You just want to hear what you want to hear -- You're so tough Liz! I couldn't handle what you handle every day!
Since everyone else in the world just doesn't seem to understand what you're going through, let me point out that diabetes is not that difficult to understand. It's not a mental disorder, and you CAN communicate your needs to your supervisors, and if they don't do anything about it, you can either leave, or you can go over their heads -- some diabetics who work in places that are routinely lacking in support for their condition sue for abuse. That you don't want to put in the effort to make it better or to find someplace better is your own choice. You are not contractually obligated to just sit there and take it. It's not the military. It's not my company.
So people you work with are mean... But it doesn't matter who you work with; there's always going to be someone you don't like. For instance, in high school, I'm certain you had teachers you didn't like. There's no choice in the matter... And if it comes down to it, and you have to take a break because you need to maintain your sugars, give them a warning, and then just go. Manage a record of incidents that take place, and if it comes down to it and you get fired for leaving the front when your health is in serious danger, you have proof of abuse -- if you can, indeed, prove that your condition requires immediate attention whenever your break is after lunchtime. Some diabetics don't need that.
All in all, if people seem to get upset at your complaints, there's probably a reason for it. My suggestion is that you try to stop being so condescending and UNDERSTAND that most people just UNDERSTAND what you're going through (Does, "No, you really don't understand," ring any bells?). What you go through in a day just isn't all that different from what other people go through, and you have absolutely no right to take out your bad day on someone who ALSO has their own bad days... often times when you have your bad days. You are then complicating what they've already been through.
See why being hurtful when you've had a bad day isn't fair?
By the by, since it's probably still an issue... this also counts for when Mustang yelled at you. No, he wasn't just spewing venom, and he wasn't taking out his own problems on you as some people might think. I'm quite sure he just saw your vindictive, poisonous side at a vulnerable time, and it eventually broke skin. You probably still think you're in the right, but never have you owed anyone as much of an apology as you have owed him. In the end, I should have posted this tirade the minute I knew everything with him happened.
But months later, here we are... and I, as I always do, doubt you'll change after this. You know me well enough to realize that I want proof before I'll forgive anyone. You'd better get to work fast, because as I said at the beginning, you won't have anyone to cry to if it keeps up. From here on out, if you honestly can't just take it like everyone else does and understand that you really don't deserve any extremely special treatment (beyond your diabetic needs -- no, I haven't forgotten that, and yes, I do understand) then you can just see yourself to the door. This is not an ultimatum or anything, but it does slightly remind of certain other circumstances.
I, like anyone else around here, would really like for you to be happy... But, if you'll excuse the analogy, I will not drown for someone who incessantly grasps at the weeds lining the pond's bottom. If you won't help yourself, other people, too, are bound to give up -- I won't even have to throw that damnable phone into a lockbox.
You work three days a week....
At a job that pays well for what it is....
Has benefits for workers who are NOT full-time...
Has ANY breaks at all besides lunch...
And is relatively safe.
You have the monetary means to own cats.
To have a dog.
To buy video games.
For a car.
For a cell phone.
For internet.
For cable.
And in the end, what really matters is that you have food and a roof over your head... And people who are willing to sit there and take it when you feel like taking out your problems on them. Yeah, everyone has a right to complain, but only as far as it isn't hurting other people. They're trying to support you, and if everything you need to realize is going to require a slap in the face, so be it.
Here goes.
It's not that nobody wants to hear it when you have a bad day... It's that you're mean, it's that you're nasty to them, and it's that you backhand them when they try to reach a hand out to you. Do you really think that people are telling you to look for something good in your day to HURT you? That they're trying to make you feel worse when you obviously feel bad already? Get a clue. You just want to hear what you want to hear -- You're so tough Liz! I couldn't handle what you handle every day!
Since everyone else in the world just doesn't seem to understand what you're going through, let me point out that diabetes is not that difficult to understand. It's not a mental disorder, and you CAN communicate your needs to your supervisors, and if they don't do anything about it, you can either leave, or you can go over their heads -- some diabetics who work in places that are routinely lacking in support for their condition sue for abuse. That you don't want to put in the effort to make it better or to find someplace better is your own choice. You are not contractually obligated to just sit there and take it. It's not the military. It's not my company.
So people you work with are mean... But it doesn't matter who you work with; there's always going to be someone you don't like. For instance, in high school, I'm certain you had teachers you didn't like. There's no choice in the matter... And if it comes down to it, and you have to take a break because you need to maintain your sugars, give them a warning, and then just go. Manage a record of incidents that take place, and if it comes down to it and you get fired for leaving the front when your health is in serious danger, you have proof of abuse -- if you can, indeed, prove that your condition requires immediate attention whenever your break is after lunchtime. Some diabetics don't need that.
All in all, if people seem to get upset at your complaints, there's probably a reason for it. My suggestion is that you try to stop being so condescending and UNDERSTAND that most people just UNDERSTAND what you're going through (Does, "No, you really don't understand," ring any bells?). What you go through in a day just isn't all that different from what other people go through, and you have absolutely no right to take out your bad day on someone who ALSO has their own bad days... often times when you have your bad days. You are then complicating what they've already been through.
See why being hurtful when you've had a bad day isn't fair?
By the by, since it's probably still an issue... this also counts for when Mustang yelled at you. No, he wasn't just spewing venom, and he wasn't taking out his own problems on you as some people might think. I'm quite sure he just saw your vindictive, poisonous side at a vulnerable time, and it eventually broke skin. You probably still think you're in the right, but never have you owed anyone as much of an apology as you have owed him. In the end, I should have posted this tirade the minute I knew everything with him happened.
But months later, here we are... and I, as I always do, doubt you'll change after this. You know me well enough to realize that I want proof before I'll forgive anyone. You'd better get to work fast, because as I said at the beginning, you won't have anyone to cry to if it keeps up. From here on out, if you honestly can't just take it like everyone else does and understand that you really don't deserve any extremely special treatment (beyond your diabetic needs -- no, I haven't forgotten that, and yes, I do understand) then you can just see yourself to the door. This is not an ultimatum or anything, but it does slightly remind of certain other circumstances.
I, like anyone else around here, would really like for you to be happy... But, if you'll excuse the analogy, I will not drown for someone who incessantly grasps at the weeds lining the pond's bottom. If you won't help yourself, other people, too, are bound to give up -- I won't even have to throw that damnable phone into a lockbox.