My View: What I see as the Heart of the Matter
The last line on drwex most excellent summation of his views is what I wonder any social community can come to some basic agreement of...
If we cannot find a way to work with each other - despite our different frameworks - to deal with an abuser and social gatherings then we have a pretty deep problem.
In my LiveJournal alone (and I certainly don't have the largest of friends list I know of...), my flist crosses the boundaries of PolyBoston, the local SpinJams, the Burner Crowd, the Kink Community, Community Theater and the MIT Suspects crowd. More than one of them has struggled with this issue and that is a lot of points of view, a lot of history and a lot of different lifestyles.*
So in an attempt to boil an extremely complex situation and discussion into it's simplest form, I am asking for ideas.
Putting aside recent events and escalating disagreements, how would you want to deal with an abuser and social gatherings within your social circle?
Guidelines to keep in mind:
*(ETA-Forgot to put this at the bottom) I am a historian at heart and have some very passionate ideas on personal history that I may expound upon in a separate post.
If we cannot find a way to work with each other - despite our different frameworks - to deal with an abuser and social gatherings then we have a pretty deep problem.
In my LiveJournal alone (and I certainly don't have the largest of friends list I know of...), my flist crosses the boundaries of PolyBoston, the local SpinJams, the Burner Crowd, the Kink Community, Community Theater and the MIT Suspects crowd. More than one of them has struggled with this issue and that is a lot of points of view, a lot of history and a lot of different lifestyles.*
So in an attempt to boil an extremely complex situation and discussion into it's simplest form, I am asking for ideas.
Putting aside recent events and escalating disagreements, how would you want to deal with an abuser and social gatherings within your social circle?
Guidelines to keep in mind:
- Don't make specific references to people or history*.
- This is in regards to gatherings in private settings, ie a person's home.
- One person's friend could be another person's abuser.
*(ETA-Forgot to put this at the bottom) I am a historian at heart and have some very passionate ideas on personal history that I may expound upon in a separate post.