The importance of family...
isn't that important after all.
All our lives we learn that family is important. We are taught that we must spend time with them, care about them, and work hard to keep those relationships strong.
But, just because you are related to someone by blood, doesn't mean you have anything in common. It doesn't even mean you'll end up liking them. You will love them, because they are family, but it doesn't mean you will want to be or have to be close with them. Family is just people we happen to be related to. And maybe family isn't as important as everyone makes it out to be.
Who is most important are the people we choose to love. The people we pick. Our friends, our boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, husbands, wives - they can be a family. They can end up being closer to you then any mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, aunt or uncle ever will be. Fostering those relationships - that's what's important. I watched countless people, including myself, beat their head against a wall trying to have closer relationships with family members - everyone from parents to cousins. But I realized it is better to just give up and love those who willing love you back.
Family can be great, if you have the right people in your family. Or it can just be people with whom you share a blood line and that's OK. Spend more time on the relationships that really matter. Those people you really love.
All our lives we learn that family is important. We are taught that we must spend time with them, care about them, and work hard to keep those relationships strong.
But, just because you are related to someone by blood, doesn't mean you have anything in common. It doesn't even mean you'll end up liking them. You will love them, because they are family, but it doesn't mean you will want to be or have to be close with them. Family is just people we happen to be related to. And maybe family isn't as important as everyone makes it out to be.
Who is most important are the people we choose to love. The people we pick. Our friends, our boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, husbands, wives - they can be a family. They can end up being closer to you then any mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, aunt or uncle ever will be. Fostering those relationships - that's what's important. I watched countless people, including myself, beat their head against a wall trying to have closer relationships with family members - everyone from parents to cousins. But I realized it is better to just give up and love those who willing love you back.
Family can be great, if you have the right people in your family. Or it can just be people with whom you share a blood line and that's OK. Spend more time on the relationships that really matter. Those people you really love.