.009 -- how to make friends and be awesome
okay so, I've always been a bit on the shy side (I KNOW, SUSPEND YOUR DISBELIEF. HOW IS SOMEONE WHO SCREAMS IN CAPS ALL THE TIME SHY). idk, but there is this thing that happens when I face people in real life. Something about actually having to face a person and see them there just makes me freeze and lose my ability to uh, everything. Just to be clear, I can make friends pretty easily (I think), and once I'm comfortable around someone, I can talk their heads off! but I've always had other people approach me, and I want to change that.
And, I have been trying. Part of why I was so insistent about moving across the country for school was so that I couldn't just fall back on my old social circle. I wanted to force myself to be more extroverted, and I wanted to see if I could be the one to approach someone. It's been...okay. I'm making friends, but I'm still the one being approached, and I really, really want to be able to change that.
I think part of the reason I'm so uncomfortable being the initiator is that I feel like I'm being judged all the time. I don't ooze self-confidence; I feel like I'm always either going to say/do something really stupid or really awkward. I'm just not comfortable with myself, I guess? But like, I don't hate myself. I like myself perfectly fine, but I also think that I don't really know how to just be myself around strangers. and, obviously, once I get to know people, I am perfectly a-okay with being stupid and having fun. I just--I want to be able to be like that all the time? Not the being stupid, but having fun. I'm in school to be a ~professional~ sure, but it's not like I'm supposed to become a killjoy, and there are quite a few social butterflies in my class who are just so comfortable in their skins and I just want that. I want to be like that.
anyway, TL;DR: i want to be comfortable in my own skin, and be able to have fun and laugh at myself all the time. So! friends, heart of my hearts, I'm asking you to help me out by doing this one thing: dare me. Dare me to do something that puts me out of my comfort zone. Anything (reasonable) goes, really, because my comfort zone is basically sitting in my apartment DOING NOTHING. and no, I can't dare myself because I'm just going to end up being like "whatever," and watching more kdramas because that is how I live my life. so please help me? Q_Q you can tell your friends to dare me, too, I don't care. I'm going to try to write up/photograph/get video of the dares that I do, and hopefully, over the next few months, I, you, and the rest of the internet can see me love myself more?? maybe?? yes?? hopefully?? come on help me out i'm at a new school 2500 miles from home and i know basically nobody. this is like, a+ breeding ground for good dares.
masterlist.
And, I have been trying. Part of why I was so insistent about moving across the country for school was so that I couldn't just fall back on my old social circle. I wanted to force myself to be more extroverted, and I wanted to see if I could be the one to approach someone. It's been...okay. I'm making friends, but I'm still the one being approached, and I really, really want to be able to change that.
I think part of the reason I'm so uncomfortable being the initiator is that I feel like I'm being judged all the time. I don't ooze self-confidence; I feel like I'm always either going to say/do something really stupid or really awkward. I'm just not comfortable with myself, I guess? But like, I don't hate myself. I like myself perfectly fine, but I also think that I don't really know how to just be myself around strangers. and, obviously, once I get to know people, I am perfectly a-okay with being stupid and having fun. I just--I want to be able to be like that all the time? Not the being stupid, but having fun. I'm in school to be a ~professional~ sure, but it's not like I'm supposed to become a killjoy, and there are quite a few social butterflies in my class who are just so comfortable in their skins and I just want that. I want to be like that.
anyway, TL;DR: i want to be comfortable in my own skin, and be able to have fun and laugh at myself all the time. So! friends, heart of my hearts, I'm asking you to help me out by doing this one thing: dare me. Dare me to do something that puts me out of my comfort zone. Anything (reasonable) goes, really, because my comfort zone is basically sitting in my apartment DOING NOTHING. and no, I can't dare myself because I'm just going to end up being like "whatever," and watching more kdramas because that is how I live my life. so please help me? Q_Q you can tell your friends to dare me, too, I don't care. I'm going to try to write up/photograph/get video of the dares that I do, and hopefully, over the next few months, I, you, and the rest of the internet can see me love myself more?? maybe?? yes?? hopefully?? come on help me out i'm at a new school 2500 miles from home and i know basically nobody. this is like, a+ breeding ground for good dares.
masterlist.
- open mic
- take a hobby/craft class
- get to know those awesome baristas
- ask a stranger for their phone number
- introduce myself to a group of people
- compliment at least 3 people I don't know
- make a video of myself maintaining eye contact and singing
- go to a club gathering and talk to 2 new people
- make something for my neighbors and introduce myself
- talk to a stranger in the library and ask them for coffee