I wish I'd read this when I was young: “…But You Get The Honey Badger For Free!”
http://theferrett.livejournal.com/1796331.html The Honey Badger in question is the destructive qualities of a partner that otherwise has something wonderful you really, really love. My problem was that I didn't think I could find those qualities from someone else--or even BE loved by someone else--so I settled for having the Honey Badger rampage through my life.