Half and Half

[tanthe]

On an episode of Queer Eye For The Straight Guy earlier they were doing a weight loss challenge for a newly wed couple, because apparently newlyweds tend to chub up quite a bit once they hit the "comfortable" married zone

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[lunamoth42]

I've encountered a number of old friends (like, I've known them since high school) who chubbed up now they're in their 30's. What it came down to is, they continued to eat the same way as when they were 16. And since our metabolism slows down in our mid to late 20's, they started putting on the pounds and not understanding why. It takes actual thought and consideration to put it together, which a lot of people don't have.

[tanthe]

Well, often it seems as though they were able to maintain their weight while single and actively in the dating market, but once they're married then people don't seem to give a crap anymore. I've noticed it with married relationships too... people seem to think that they don't need to try once the ring is on the finger, as though they've accomplished their goal and that was it. And that's why I think many marriages fail and fail within the first couple of years

[lunamoth42]

But I guess I'm trying to give some people more credit than they deserve?

Indeed. People are generally rather dumb I've noticed. This is why we need to put warnings on things like don't use your hairdryer while in the tub. :P

[catdraco]

I think a certain amount of chubbiness once you get married is fine. I mean, you do kind of "let go" a bit once you really feel like you're in a relationship where you're loved for the person you are, rather than what you look like. But I'm talking a dress size, not an entire wheelbarrow of lard. And you don't get to just become apathetic in general: I think in a healthy relationship, your focus shifts from things like "how good do I look?" to "where are we going together?" You know, working on meaningful goals - as long as you're healthy, weight is then a side issue, not a deal-breaker: it's also not a symptom of a generalised apathy, which I think is a deal-breaker.

Anyway. Yeah, I agree. So many people are absolutely clueless about what's healthy and what isn't. I have all sorts of theories about why, but I think the strongest reason is that most people don't know how to cook. I mean, you know how much fat is in icecream if you make it yourself just once - same goes for mayonnaise. Ain't no denial once you start beating

[tanthe]

This couple was letting go in more than a single dress size. The woman had size 12 clothing (though looking at her chest, size 12 was optimistic) and was saying how she'd like to be a size 6, ideally. You don't get to be a size 6 with half-and-half