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Phew, kind of an exhausting day.
Work was OK, but I never got to ask my supervisor the questions I wanted to - first, she was in a meeting with her supervisor, and then there was a frenzy of getting information about something from the other people in the unit. So, I abstained from bothering her. I'll do that in the morning.
We went and looked at two houses after work. The first one was very nice and put together in a very appealing manner, but was probably too small. It has two bedrooms, but they were pretty minimally sized with room for a bed and not much else. Since we probably would have another person moving in with us, it would likely not be big enough for us. That was a shame because it was very nicely located and everything else about it was great. The second one was very nice as well, and probably pretty much perfect for us. It's bigger than the first one, with a lovely kitchen and bathroom, all new windows and pipes, etc. Also with a nice yard that we would actually be able to garden in. J really was excited about it. Unfortunately, there's an offer in, and the inspection is tomorrow, so I'm cautious about being hopeful about it. If it goes wrong somewhere in the process, we'd definitely like to make an offer. It's at the high end of our price range, but it would probably not need any work anytime soon. The guy who's selling it is a real estate agent and he's going to let us know how the inspection goes tomorrow. Fingers crossed!
We had a bit of Facebook drama this evening. J's sister recently got engaged and her fiance is quite conservative. Today, he posted an article about the burning of a mosque in Canada, and made the comment that this is what happens when you let refugees in. Apparently he didn't read the article? Because it was an attack by an anti-immigration person. So, J wanted to point out what the article was actually about, but the fiance had blocked J from commenting on his posts. (A few weeks ago, Mr. Fiance posted a meme joking about domestic violence, which J confronted him about. Not reassuring when you're about to marry his sister. We're assuming that's where the block came from.) Anyway, J ended up just writing a normal post and tagging him in it, and instead of responding, the fiance dodged the issue in a separate post. Which. Just a symptom of our problems. J wasn't particularly confrontational, he was mostly just questioning in a roundabout way whether the fiance had actually read the article he linked.
On a related note, I'm thinking I might start sharing more articles on Facebook. I've been off Facebook for quite a few months because I didn't want to hear the hate, but I'm in a position of considerable privilege in US society. I'm white, heterosexual, married, middle class. My only strike is my gender. I feel like I should use that privilege to try and spread thoughtfulness. It kind of makes me anxious at the prospect of potential confrontation, but I want to give people more options for information, at the very least. I posted a couple this evening, one about the process of vetting refugees and immigrants prior to admission, and one about an actual Syrian refugee's experience with the system. The issue will be continuing to do this, as it's got my anxiety up considerably. I think it will be easier on days that I didn't spend half of my night busy with other things.
And it will probably help me confront my anxiety more, which I think is important for me. In general, my anxiety is only a problem if I let it be - if I push myself, I can do the things that make me anxious. And once it's over, I generally feel better, although the prospect of someone saying something negative to me is getting to me right now.
Anyway, still haven't finished my internet rounds, so I'm off. Please excuse any silly spelling errors in here. Apparently I can't spell when I'm tired. XD
Work was OK, but I never got to ask my supervisor the questions I wanted to - first, she was in a meeting with her supervisor, and then there was a frenzy of getting information about something from the other people in the unit. So, I abstained from bothering her. I'll do that in the morning.
We went and looked at two houses after work. The first one was very nice and put together in a very appealing manner, but was probably too small. It has two bedrooms, but they were pretty minimally sized with room for a bed and not much else. Since we probably would have another person moving in with us, it would likely not be big enough for us. That was a shame because it was very nicely located and everything else about it was great. The second one was very nice as well, and probably pretty much perfect for us. It's bigger than the first one, with a lovely kitchen and bathroom, all new windows and pipes, etc. Also with a nice yard that we would actually be able to garden in. J really was excited about it. Unfortunately, there's an offer in, and the inspection is tomorrow, so I'm cautious about being hopeful about it. If it goes wrong somewhere in the process, we'd definitely like to make an offer. It's at the high end of our price range, but it would probably not need any work anytime soon. The guy who's selling it is a real estate agent and he's going to let us know how the inspection goes tomorrow. Fingers crossed!
We had a bit of Facebook drama this evening. J's sister recently got engaged and her fiance is quite conservative. Today, he posted an article about the burning of a mosque in Canada, and made the comment that this is what happens when you let refugees in. Apparently he didn't read the article? Because it was an attack by an anti-immigration person. So, J wanted to point out what the article was actually about, but the fiance had blocked J from commenting on his posts. (A few weeks ago, Mr. Fiance posted a meme joking about domestic violence, which J confronted him about. Not reassuring when you're about to marry his sister. We're assuming that's where the block came from.) Anyway, J ended up just writing a normal post and tagging him in it, and instead of responding, the fiance dodged the issue in a separate post. Which. Just a symptom of our problems. J wasn't particularly confrontational, he was mostly just questioning in a roundabout way whether the fiance had actually read the article he linked.
On a related note, I'm thinking I might start sharing more articles on Facebook. I've been off Facebook for quite a few months because I didn't want to hear the hate, but I'm in a position of considerable privilege in US society. I'm white, heterosexual, married, middle class. My only strike is my gender. I feel like I should use that privilege to try and spread thoughtfulness. It kind of makes me anxious at the prospect of potential confrontation, but I want to give people more options for information, at the very least. I posted a couple this evening, one about the process of vetting refugees and immigrants prior to admission, and one about an actual Syrian refugee's experience with the system. The issue will be continuing to do this, as it's got my anxiety up considerably. I think it will be easier on days that I didn't spend half of my night busy with other things.
And it will probably help me confront my anxiety more, which I think is important for me. In general, my anxiety is only a problem if I let it be - if I push myself, I can do the things that make me anxious. And once it's over, I generally feel better, although the prospect of someone saying something negative to me is getting to me right now.
Anyway, still haven't finished my internet rounds, so I'm off. Please excuse any silly spelling errors in here. Apparently I can't spell when I'm tired. XD