we talked
i got tired of waiting for him to call me. so i called him about 7:30ish and asked him what he was doing. he was getting ready to watch the football game at 8pm. i asked him to tape it (b/c he has the ablity to do that) and come over and talk with me. voices were raised about that. he argued with me on that. i finially said, "the night of that
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and some other things (that i'm not going to say in my lj).
If personal purity is at stake (which seems to be the implication here), then my first question would be what is HE doing to prevent things from moving too fast in the future? I think you're equally responsible for whatever takes place between the two of you, but -- should dating lead to marriage -- is he capable of assuming the role of spiritual headship in the relationship and take responsibility for setting the right boundaries from the very beginning?
but i told him that i'm tired of driving (wearing the "pants" in the relationship) that i'm handing him the steering wheel.
Unfortunately, if it wasn't his idea to take the lead in the relationship, there's little chance he's going to assume that role just because you let go of the wheel. Actions speak louder than words; no matter how many times he says he's head over heels and doesn't want to lose you, what is he doing to keep you? If you have to guilt him into leaving a football game so he'll come talk to you, you're right to assume that his priorities are not yours.
he just didn't know about things b/c they moved too fast for him and freaked him out... he's thinking tonight... but he really likes me
Honestly, that sounds like an excuse. It's easy to like someone but not be responsible in a relationship; he can like you but not respect you. And, trust me, you don't want to settle. You want someone who will love and respect you, even when it's inconvenient or interferes with his plans.
Anyway. My two cents. I'll pray for you, that you'll have the wisdom to make the right choices and to see things clearly.
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