About Relationships
translation of something I read in chinese the other day about relationships...
Have you ever noticed that?
The feeling of love, it always feels so sweet in the beginning..
there is one more person to keep you company, one more person to share your troubles
You are no longer alone, at least there is one other person thinking of you.
loving you, no matter what you do
nothing else matters except being together, that is the best thing for everyone
Very slowly, as you get to know each other much deeper
You noticed each other's flaws
thus problems starts arising one after another
you start feeling annoyed, tired, even want to run away
some people say that finding love is like picking up a stone
you always want to find that stone that is best suited for you.
but how would you know when you find that stone?
is he or she best fit for you, or am i the best fit for that person?
actually, love is like shaping a stone
maybe when you first picked up the stone, you are not very satisfied with the stone
But remember that people are very flexible
There are many things that can change
if you have the heart, the courage to go pick up a stone that have unknown potential
why not take the stone you already picked and try to make that stone shine
have you started this process yet?
A lot of people think that the loving relationship starts to dampen, because people then start getting lazy.. but that is not the cause, it is the laziness that takes over first that is why your relationship dampens...
If everyone in a relationship is lazy in talking to their significant other,
lazy in listening to the other person talk,
lazy in forming surprises,
lazy in being thoughtful, then of course things will start to dampen...
Thus remember that:
if you want an active loving relationship, you need to have the right amount of effort and work in place
when you are dating,
you should not get lazy with time
Often times, when you feel that you love or hate someone,
it is really how we think at that moment in time.
Love means to understand to accept others, be open to them and many times the things that occur,
you just need to adjust how you feel about it.
If someone loves you, and you think that they are a good person,
it does not mean you will chose that person.
We always say, "I want to find someone that I love so deeply before I commit to a relationship."
But when that person comes along and ask you, what is it that you consider "love so deeply",
you can't really answer them because you do not know it yourself.
Of course, we always think we will find someone that we will love so deeply, but when we look back.. you realized how silly/childish that thought was.
IF you never start something with someone,
how would you know whether you will ever love so deeply for that person.
We all maybe wishing to find someone that is 100% compatible as our life partner.
Thus, you should look around you. That person may be close by.
When you love someone, you should love them 80% which is the best percentage because you should leave the 20% to love yourself too.
If you continue to surpass the 80% then it could cause the other person to feel pressure and suffocation. Then you would lose the feeling of love.
Please do not hold someone else's hand so easily.
But once you do hold their hand.. do not let it go so readily.