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Gah. I get so frustrated sometimes. Mark's townhouse is so far out of everyone's way that no one comes by, ever, and when I want to go out drinking with friends it's hard to find a designated driver because no one lives around us. So last night I wanted to go out, he didn't, I end up back at the townhouse trying to decide whether to just go out and worry about the logistics later, and it turns out that everyone thinks I'm somehow keeping him in. And this isn't the first time, people seem to think that in general I don't let him go out or something. We decide we'd rather make dinner in and meet up with people later and he tells them I don't like the restaurant so he has to cook me something. He decides he doesn't want to go back to a party so he lets people think I wanted to go home. He plays it off to his friends that he's whipped and can't go out with them, using me as an excuse instead of just admitting that he doesn't want to go out. Whipped? I can't even get him to go to the movies with me!
What's worse is that he told me he didn't understand why his friends thought these things and that there was absolutely no way to solve the problem, but it turns out he fosters the idea. I had called him out on blaming me for the last time we didn't go out to dinner, but he insisted that was a misunderstanding, it just came out wrong. On the phone with Dirty last night he laughed when I was identified as the reason we were going home, and when I was obviously displeased he said "nah, strangely this time I'm the one who doesn't want to go out." Strangely? Strangely? It's strange that I'm not the one making you go home? If that's strange, I wonder what that means normal is... Gee Mark, I wonder where your friends got these weird ideas too... You're obviously doing everything you can to make it clear that you ask me to stay in, not the other way around. I guess you're right, it's an impossible problem to solve - you should probably keep lying though, I bet that will help a lot of things.
What's worse is that he told me he didn't understand why his friends thought these things and that there was absolutely no way to solve the problem, but it turns out he fosters the idea. I had called him out on blaming me for the last time we didn't go out to dinner, but he insisted that was a misunderstanding, it just came out wrong. On the phone with Dirty last night he laughed when I was identified as the reason we were going home, and when I was obviously displeased he said "nah, strangely this time I'm the one who doesn't want to go out." Strangely? Strangely? It's strange that I'm not the one making you go home? If that's strange, I wonder what that means normal is... Gee Mark, I wonder where your friends got these weird ideas too... You're obviously doing everything you can to make it clear that you ask me to stay in, not the other way around. I guess you're right, it's an impossible problem to solve - you should probably keep lying though, I bet that will help a lot of things.