I think at one time or another we all have felt the way you do right now. It can be downright overwhelming. Being with someone is a great experience. Being single is a great experience too. It gives you a chance to be with yourself, explore your life, and you have certain freedoms that you don't have when you're in a relationship. I used to feel very lonely too. Along the way I realized that it stemmed not from a desire to be with someone, but a deeper sense of unhappiness with myself. So I started finding ways of taking better care of myself. It started with little things. But I started having a relationship with myself and I started getting involved with things I felt passionate about. Over time the loneliness went away and I found a relationship (or I should say it found me).
I find myself single again after many years of being with someone else. I realize it's not such a horrible thing. Yeah, there are times when I wish I had someone to cuddle with. But I also am getting to do things I didn't get to do before because I now have the time. It's nice having a break, meeting new people, going to school, and doing things I've always wanted to do for myself.
Try not to worry too much about it. What you're feeling is natural. You're not alone in this. But try to avoid letting it drag you down. Keep doing what you love to do. Keep living. Be open to life's little surprises and in all likelihood, you'll find what you're looking for but not looking for it. ;-)
Thanks Sean. I guess that was just the words I needed to hear(read)... I'm riding a rollecoaster at the moment, going from confident to crap. But I guess the less time I spend feeling miserable(or thinking about how my life is going nowhere) the more time I have to do something I love. I guess I'm kinda waiting for someone to come and fix me, instead of just picking myself up and starting to appreciate what I already have.
Whining is too easy sometimes. :/
Anyway, yoga classes are starting in few weeks, along with work and school so I can get my thoughts together soon, I hope.
I find myself single again after many years of being with someone else. I realize it's not such a horrible thing. Yeah, there are times when I wish I had someone to cuddle with. But I also am getting to do things I didn't get to do before because I now have the time. It's nice having a break, meeting new people, going to school, and doing things I've always wanted to do for myself.
Try not to worry too much about it. What you're feeling is natural. You're not alone in this. But try to avoid letting it drag you down. Keep doing what you love to do. Keep living. Be open to life's little surprises and in all likelihood, you'll find what you're looking for but not looking for it. ;-)
Happy New Year!
-sean
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Whining is too easy sometimes. :/
Anyway, yoga classes are starting in few weeks, along with work and school so I can get my thoughts together soon, I hope.
Happy new year to you too! : )
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