sometimes, you can't just go with the flow.
Today I recognized that up until recently, I've allowed most of my life decisions to be governed by my heart (55%), followed by chance (30%), and finishing with mind (a sad 15%).
Sometime in August, after reflecting on the ending of an unhealthy friendship, I gathered from those ashes a piece of wisdom once given to me by that person (after an incident in which I was certain I'd been the victim): you've got to take full responsibility for any and all of your decisions, and accept their outcome. Sounds so cliche, I know, but that time, I really thought about what those words mean, and have tried to make better decisions ever since.
Decisions take me a while. I've accepted that. But you know what? Now, when I decide on taking action, or not taking action, I can tell myself afterwards that I thought seriously on it, and am satisfied with my choice. Even if it turns out I have to call myself a dumbass once in a while.
So I think nowadays, my decision-making process is more like 50% heart, 45% mind, and 5% chance. (I mean, there will always be things that will happen beyond your control.) And I think that for me, that's ok.
Sometime in August, after reflecting on the ending of an unhealthy friendship, I gathered from those ashes a piece of wisdom once given to me by that person (after an incident in which I was certain I'd been the victim): you've got to take full responsibility for any and all of your decisions, and accept their outcome. Sounds so cliche, I know, but that time, I really thought about what those words mean, and have tried to make better decisions ever since.
Decisions take me a while. I've accepted that. But you know what? Now, when I decide on taking action, or not taking action, I can tell myself afterwards that I thought seriously on it, and am satisfied with my choice. Even if it turns out I have to call myself a dumbass once in a while.
So I think nowadays, my decision-making process is more like 50% heart, 45% mind, and 5% chance. (I mean, there will always be things that will happen beyond your control.) And I think that for me, that's ok.