Wow, and I thought my taxes were a PITA this year! *hangs head*
I doubt this will be any consolation, but you are at the very beginning of a wave of huge and dramatic reform -- you're in that awkward, in-between place where the laws are just starting to change, and you're caught in the space between having rights and not having them. I imagine this is how early suffragists felt, or those at the beginning of the Civil Rights movement.
The sad truth is that for a large part of this country, gay marriage is the scary big bad that will destroy all that is good and righteous. (Just in case it needs stating, I DO NOT agree with this! But a lot of people still do.) This is changing, but it's changing slowly, in baby steps.
I do have to say, as well, that I've always thought it was ridiculous that marriage laws are state-to-state, meaning people -- mixed-gender couples as well as same-gender -- can be married in some states and not in others. Granted, it did mean MA got gay marriage significantly sooner than it would have had it had to wait for federal law to change, but then you run into problems like your current situation.
I doubt this will be any consolation, but you are at the very beginning of a wave of huge and dramatic reform -- you're in that awkward, in-between place where the laws are just starting to change, and you're caught in the space between having rights and not having them. I imagine this is how early suffragists felt, or those at the beginning of the Civil Rights movement.
The sad truth is that for a large part of this country, gay marriage is the scary big bad that will destroy all that is good and righteous. (Just in case it needs stating, I DO NOT agree with this! But a lot of people still do.) This is changing, but it's changing slowly, in baby steps.
I do have to say, as well, that I've always thought it was ridiculous that marriage laws are state-to-state, meaning people -- mixed-gender couples as well as same-gender -- can be married in some states and not in others. Granted, it did mean MA got gay marriage significantly sooner than it would have had it had to wait for federal law to change, but then you run into problems like your current situation.
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