It's really embarassing to say that he said that to me. Sure I've gained some weight since we started dating..... BUT.... 3 years ago I got out of a horrific abusive relationship and was a crystal meth fiend. Still doesn't constitute anyone ever saying that. Plus I don't even see it as "gaining weight"..... I see it as returning to a healthy lifestyle as an adult.
1. how he said it is really important to a healthy relationship. Blaming you for the lack of sex because HE thinks you're too fat instead of suggesting you could lose a bit of weight healthily and he'd love to help you- "come go jogging with me :)" is SO immature and childish. And downright selfish!
2. The fact that he doesn't really see it as returning to a healthy lifestyle (and I agree with your point of view) also makes him short-sighted. ):
I'm not even talking to him right now. I locked him out of the bedroom and when i came into the living room to watch tv, i asked him to leave. I don't want to even see him or be in the same ro as him. When he said that in our argument two notes ago, I got up and went to bed. I just went numb. I'm not even sad or upset or anything. He's still at the apartment to pay the rent because I don't want to get into a situation financially that I can't get out of. Plus I started a new job and haven't recieved my first paycheck. It's a little hard to search for apartments when you don't have a budget. I'm thinking that he wanted to just be mean at the moment but reguardless, what was said was said and it's totally over.
): what the hell is his problem. Is this a mean and cowardly way in breaking up with you? Like: I'm going to say something mean and selfish so SHE breaks up with ME and I'm not the bad guy? Because lol, it's not working.
I'm sure it's his way of getting me to leave him, so that in the end I look like the bad guy and when he tells the story to others, they end up feeling for him. It's childish and inappropriate. Obviously our relationship never started out as normal standards dictate, but we have been through so much that I certainly thought a bit of weight gain wouldn't be the end of it. It really just makes him look like a bad person in the end. It's apparent that he is and has been unhappy because we do fight a lot and he says I am the selfish one.... And I expecthim to do what I say. That's a bit of an over-exaggeration on his part but if that's how he portrays me in his head, so be it.
Sorry, but is he dumb?!
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Sure I've gained some weight since we started dating.....
BUT....
3 years ago I got out of a horrific abusive relationship and was a crystal meth fiend.
Still doesn't constitute anyone ever saying that.
Plus I don't even see it as "gaining weight"..... I see it as returning to a healthy lifestyle as an adult.
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2. The fact that he doesn't really see it as returning to a healthy lifestyle (and I agree with your point of view) also makes him short-sighted.
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I'm thinking that he wanted to just be mean at the moment but reguardless, what was said was said and it's totally over.
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It's childish and inappropriate.
Obviously our relationship never started out as normal standards dictate, but we have been through so much that I certainly thought a bit of weight gain wouldn't be the end of it.
It really just makes him look like a bad person in the end.
It's apparent that he is and has been unhappy because we do fight a lot and he says I am the selfish one.... And I expecthim to do what I say. That's a bit of an over-exaggeration on his part but if that's how he portrays me in his head, so be it.
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