Can I be privilege deny dude for a moment?

[taiki]

Let me get this in here. I'm not denying privilege exists. I'm not denying that there's a glass ceiling or that shit sucks for women. I'm not. But, I've been pondering dating a whole lot ever since in the last few months, I've been hearing about my a bunch of my friends scoring huge successes in their own dating lives, and the whole notion of

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[vonandmoggy]

I'm new around here but...I feel like this sometimes, too. I think it goes hand-in-hand with adulthood but it always sucks.

I hope things pick up for you.

*passes cookies, tea, wine, and assorted other feel-good stuff*

[taiki]

*noms on them* I'm going to edit this post with what I meant to write. I didn't mean to post what I did.

[thelastsong]

I think you are meeting the wrong girls.

And... I'm just throwing this out here because you brought up evo-psych, but... women are attracted to manly men if they want to bear children, consciously or subconciously. And then after the first kid, they're like, alright, whatever, genes passed on.

[taiki]

I hope you are right.

[kartos]

This REALLY depends on the type of woman. Do you really want to date someone who is obsessed with gender roles?

32 isn't remotely enough to get a good estimate. One must use at LEAST 100. Also, were these women from all over, or just one area??

On the flip side, I've noticed it's hard to find men who aren't obsessed with getting shitfaced on piss-water beer, have no interest in anything remotely interesting, don't remotely give a shit about women as a whole, only want to put their penis in a bigger version of a fleshlight, only give a shit about vehicles, and simply don't do ANYTHING with their life. Really, why the fuck would I want to date anyone with any of those features?? I'm not even getting into the fact that most men REFUSE to remotely groom themselves, yet women must look PERFECT AT ALL TIMES.

[taiki]

I want a woman(or guy; cissexism is rampant in gay culture too. I'm not trans gender but I'd say genderqueer) who isn't. And it is an instant turn off. While I think I'm meeting the wrong people I'm worried the right group of people is much smaller than I'm comfortable with. I'm not changing who I am for the sake of meeting people.

[lunapitty]

Well, I am sure there are plenty of women out there that want the typical male, (obsessed with sports, cars, sex, etc), I can assure you there are those of us out there that do like the more sensitive, geeky, awkward type.

In fact, that's pretty much described every man I have ever been attracted to, including my husband. So I do hope that I can give that ray of hope that not all women want the gruntastical "Me man you woman" type of guy.

*hugs*

[taiki]

I hope so. Yes. It does give me some hope <3. What also worries me is the rampant cissexism of the queer/gay scene. :/. Blah

[chiave_trust]

I'm personally attracted to (if I must delineate a type) the awkwardly geeky nerdy creative sensitive types, whether they be girl or guy.

So hum.

ALSO I COME BEARING TEA. THERE ARE EXITS TO THE EAST AND WEST.