Of being out in the open, and being more open
My dear _________
You might not believe this now, but everybody I know, including this writer, has gone through what you are going through now. The problem at times is that when we’re in it, we think that it’s the end of the world, or worse, we want the world to end. In time, however, you will come to realize that one of the wonders of life and time is the power of healing. You might not think so now, but believe me, a day will come when you will look back to this phase in your life and even laugh at yourself for having dramatized this as a tragedy.
My information is that the cause of all this havoc is your friend Kat. To my mind, no friend who can hurt you in this way is worth the ruining of your future, even your life.
Let me share with you a secret with regards to my own personal relationships: make it a point always to walk away from a broken relationship, head high and proud, dignity intact, proclaiming in your demeanor that the breakup is not your loss, but his/hers. It’s not yet too late. Don’t grovel nor beg. This is most unbecoming. You will be ashamed or hate yourself later when the proverbial dust of this affair settles down
Next, think of the people who love you and I’m sure you also love in return; like it or not, they’re God’s gift to you: your Mommy & Daddy, and your sister. For their sake, can you not master enough effort to rise out of your misery and pick up the pieces of your life and go ahead to attain that dream you shared. Whatever is your decision, they will always be there for you, to help and support. For this kind of true love alone that they hold for you, they deserve a better deal than what you are giving them as an after-Kat life.
Go ahead and be a doctor, and be the best doctor ever so that someday she will regret having let you go, losing your friendship.
Of course, it’s painful. The pain is almost unbearable. Remember, however, the end of a relationship, no matter how painful, will also open windows of fresh opportunities, which someday will make you even glad that this affair ended the way it did. And when that happens, I might not be around any longer, but you will remember me and smile and say, “By golly, that old woman was right after all.”
Finally, for your own sake, more than anybody else’s: Don’t give Kat the satisfaction of someday gloating and saying she was right all along in her decision. Prove to Kat that she’s wrong about you. Love and respect yourself. Don’t allow anyone to destroy you and your self-esteem and self-worth. Rise above your misery, and show the world that you’re a winner, not a loser.
This will do your family proud, even this old woman. Best of all, you will be doing yourself proud.
Good night, my dear. God bless you. Pray continually for guidance, for strength. And listen to His voice in the recesses of your heart, as He answers your prayers.
Mama
My niece is brave, my mother braver.