New Years Resolutions Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tactfullady]

Please,please,please do this!!!!!!!
Only anon. comments are going to be allowed. Since you all know me so well from my journal, please leave me a constructive New Years Resolution that you think I could really use to better my life! I WILL NOT get offended at anything as long as you post honestly about what you think!

Comments

[misscrankypants]

I don't mind if you know this is me.

I agree that you need to reassess the situation with P. Just because he is the kid's father does not mean that he is right for you. You guys have really tried to make it work and there are still fundamental issues that are causing stress and fighting.

I think you'd be better off without him. Are you going to marry him? If not, does he fit into the long term picture at all?

I'm not saying you have to get married but it just seems like you are settling for a situation when you could have so much more.

My $.02, you know I love you!

[tactfullady]

I know you do!
Thanks. You probably know this more than anyone because you knew me and how happy I was without him for that little while.

[undestiny]

i totally ditto the "i think you'd be better off without him"

[tactfullady]

The sad thing is, I KNOW this, but I just can't do it...what is wrong with me?

[undestiny]

nothing is wrong with you. it's the same thing that happens to women in abusive relationships. when it's over.....where do you go? it's a HUGE change and can't be taken lightly. you'd be completely on your own and that's a huge task. you'd need to make sure you have a wicked support system around you and HELP. help with the kids, with housework, with mary-anne time, while you get your shit together. you'd need to prepare for the day he's gone, prepare for the arguments, him moving out, arrnage child support payments, figure out your finances without him. there's LOTS to think about. and you can't do it alone. you need friends, family, everyone around you needs to be supportive. PLUS, telling isaiah, mizhana, making arrangements with jamie. there's tons to figure out. like i said, we get USED to things being a certain way and change is fucking scarey.

call me tonight if you want. i'll be home.

[tactfullady]

Have I ever told you how amazing I think it is that you are one of my best friends and I have never even met you? You get me. It's like you are inside of my head or something LOL!

Love ya!