"I trust my girlfriend. I just don't trust other guys."

[tacit]

It's a comment I see scattered far and wide across the Internetverse. In almost any conversation where some guy is complaining about his wife or girlfriend having male friends, inevitably someone else will ask, "don't you trust her?" And inevitably, as sure as night follows day, he will say "Oh, I trust her, I just don't trust other guys

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Nope

[anonymous]

I totally get the whole thing about not letting what other people do get you worked up, especially if you trust them. But what you’re claiming isn’t true, those two statements go hand in hand. If you don’t trust other people, then you’re going to be jealous/auspicious when they start talking up your partner. One follows the other. Even if you trust your partner completely, you can still feel negatively about someone approaching them, especially if that person is displaying pick up artist type behavior. It’s analogous to watching a scam artist try to manipulate someone you care about. Case on point: I was out with my girlfriend and stepped away for a cigarette. I come back and a guy was chatting her up. It turned out to be a friend of an acquaintance, but as I walk up she’s typing her number into his phone. Ostensibly because they were both huge fans of the same band, and he suggested getting a group together to see their next show. It was obvious what he was up to, and his reaction upon finding out I was her boyfriend proved to me his motivations. I was mostly annoyed, but jealousy played a part of course. Even though I trusted my girlfriend, no one is perfect and to have some doubt is only human. As soon as I saw her typing in her number I simply said “wow, you’re actually giving out your number” and then called her out on it after we left. She claimed she didn’t realize he was hitting on her, if you can believe that. I wasn’t particularly threatened by this guy, but didn’t like being put in that position, and I think it’s a completely normal reaction. I even told her that I trusted her, but I didn’t trust him.