Parenting Post

[tabloidscully]

H's first week at preschool has gone really well. The last two days, he's been so pleasant, it's like a completely different child from the past two months. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it's going to continue because I really, really need the preschool situation to work. If it doesn't, I have no idea what we'll do with him.

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[tabloidscully]

You're right. If someone isn't receptive to therapy, barring some pretty extreme circumstances, it probably isn't going to be beneficial to them. I think the fact she is actively acknowledging she needs it, however, is a good sign. I hope.

What's funny is, when she talks about their fling during our relationship, it's always about how humiliating that experience was for her. Maybe I'm not being nearly understanding enough, but given that I was the partner who was cheated on...I'm not really sure what was so humiliating about it for her. Maybe that he didn't ultimately take her back? I don't know.

In any case, though it kind of goes without saying that she shouldn't be trashing me to professionals we both have to interact with for the sake of our shared child, I really can't wrap my mind around why she felt the need to lie to them in the first place. People aren't great at maintaining confidences and keeping secrets, so she had to know she was running the risk of me finding out.

Still, even if her version of events were TOTALLY accurate, there is no defensible reason for telling these folks. Our history isn't any of their business, you know? It's like, sure, I post about it on my journal, but her identity is protected--I've not said her name, and so there's no risk of compromising her privacy. Not the same courtesy she extended to me, obviously.