A Costly Lesson
Having worked 32 of the past 48 hours, I thought I was seriously missing out on firestorm that came about over the last couple of days. How dissapointing. But I should have seen it coming, seeing as you can't refute the points made.
I am dissapointed that, in private, the bros & even the boy himself concurred and agreed on many points I raised, but when I put what we thought in the public arena (when I was called upon) that very few of the bros are owning up to it.
I recognize that for some it's going against the person whom they most value in a friendship. But to me, shielding him from the truth as you hold it does more damage than telling it the way it is. Which is exactly what I did (not shielding). I'm not gonna water down and dilute the world as one wants to have it told when asking my opinion, but I'll give the blood and guts reality. What the difference is: many of the people going to read this can't stand having others not like them or angry at them. As one can see by my mouth live action or my mouth via LJ, I don't care if I'm public enemy #1 for what I say cause at least you know it's the truth.
I don't see how one can be all crying and broken up over a "relationship" that has been built on a foundation of deciet & torment from the get go (from both sides of the fence, much less so dude's side), but to each his own. I see just how quickly the "relationship" was able to crumble, and wonder if it was a matter of time before a different catalyst brought it down.
However, looking like I am the catalyst, should I feel bad for telling it the way I see it, the way many of us privately see it? Hell no. Not for a second. And I won't.
I can't speak for his emotions, because if I did he'd publicly deny it, but I think a big portion of his angst in this situation is due to the fact he full well knew the truths I laid out to her, but he didn't want her to have to realize those truths, especially coming from me, because he could guess the supposed outcome would be as it went down.
I do not like that dude cried and had "the worst day" of his life. I am glad that Liz was there for him, as well as others. As they all should be.
But a costly lesson needed to be given to a girl who severely needed to be taught. The lesson: Don't hunt what you can't kill.
I am dissapointed that, in private, the bros & even the boy himself concurred and agreed on many points I raised, but when I put what we thought in the public arena (when I was called upon) that very few of the bros are owning up to it.
I recognize that for some it's going against the person whom they most value in a friendship. But to me, shielding him from the truth as you hold it does more damage than telling it the way it is. Which is exactly what I did (not shielding). I'm not gonna water down and dilute the world as one wants to have it told when asking my opinion, but I'll give the blood and guts reality. What the difference is: many of the people going to read this can't stand having others not like them or angry at them. As one can see by my mouth live action or my mouth via LJ, I don't care if I'm public enemy #1 for what I say cause at least you know it's the truth.
I don't see how one can be all crying and broken up over a "relationship" that has been built on a foundation of deciet & torment from the get go (from both sides of the fence, much less so dude's side), but to each his own. I see just how quickly the "relationship" was able to crumble, and wonder if it was a matter of time before a different catalyst brought it down.
However, looking like I am the catalyst, should I feel bad for telling it the way I see it, the way many of us privately see it? Hell no. Not for a second. And I won't.
I can't speak for his emotions, because if I did he'd publicly deny it, but I think a big portion of his angst in this situation is due to the fact he full well knew the truths I laid out to her, but he didn't want her to have to realize those truths, especially coming from me, because he could guess the supposed outcome would be as it went down.
I do not like that dude cried and had "the worst day" of his life. I am glad that Liz was there for him, as well as others. As they all should be.
But a costly lesson needed to be given to a girl who severely needed to be taught. The lesson: Don't hunt what you can't kill.