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[syzygy47]

I just got back from Disney last night, and gawd damn poeple it's taken me almost 45 minutes to read all your damn posts, and I'm still not really done with them.. it was only 6 days. But anywho, it was an awesome time with beautiful weather. Most of the days were capri's or jeans and a tee-shirt, which to me is perfect weather. The last day,

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[zibba1331]

i've reviewed this here update and what not...first off, if you want my honest opinion, his story as to why he didnt call doesnt really hold w/me. ::shrugs:: i guess it's believable enough, but where there is a will, there is a way. and after six months, i know that i'm pretty proficient with a phone number. i could be wrong, and i wont judge that story too harshly, cuz i guess it COULD be true.

the thing that strikes me is that he answered your question of why would he not want to talk to you by getting agitated. which, if i guess correctly, means that he was feeling as though you had no legitimate reason to be thinking something was wrong with his not talking to you. the idea of his "sucking up" could be true, but more likely it's just the simple fact that he honestly doesnt see anything as being WRONG. as far as i can tell, he is viewing this as business as normal; aka the squeaky wheel gets the grease. since he doesnt think things are bad or in need of fixing, he talks as though you'll stay together and gets weird when you say something is wrong.

you're absolutely right, after you'd been away for so long, he really COULD have found a way to call you if he'd wanted to. to me, coupled with the fact that he doesnt tell you how he feels means he probably doesnt KNOW how he feels exactly. whether or not he calls you from work should tell you something; you have made a lot of effort especially while he hasnt had his license, and if he cant even call when he SAYS that he will, then that's a serious issue. granted, he might not have time, but in that case he should either make 30 seconds available to let you know, or call you right after work and tell you what's up.

honestly i think at this point, you should play it by ear. granted, i know i suck at this and am being massively hypocritical, but it's honestly your best course of action as i see it. see if he calls you tomorrow. if he does, start trying to build the communication from there. little things can add up quickly, and before you know it you've got something big. if things start going from bad to worse, well sometimes you gotta call a spade a spade, and do what's best for you. i think this is something that you guys can work out, and i hope however you do it, that you're both happy.

let me know if there is anything more i can do.

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[syzygy47]

The whole story could work because he doesn't know my number since it's programmed (I am the same way with numbers, I dont know anyone's). And he actaully did call me from work today, twice. And we talked for quite some time. And he asked when I wanted to hang out instead of letting me do it first. AND he invited on vacation with his family in August, so he obviously is planning on being with me for a while. I guess it's true what they say 'just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all of their heart'... but then again the whole l-bomb thing is an entirely different rant. But I really do appreciate your input on all of this Paul, it has helped immensely to have a guys point of view input. And speaking of the summer plans, Jon was thinking the two of us and you and Liz + Foxwoods for a night would be a good time.. Liz is down, what do u think?

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[zibba1331]

sounds like things are going to work out just fine. like i said, keep the ol' head up and it will all be good.

as for the summer plans regarding foxwoods, i'm definitely in cuz that place is a whole lotta fun.

and hey, no worries regarding my advice. it aint much, but it's the least i can do :)