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[synster]

So... it's been like three months since I told my parents about Katie, the three of us, the whole big thing. And when they took me out to dinner... last weekend I think? Maybe the weekend before? For my birthday (finally... Mom's been so busy lately with the store that was the first chance they had really), we didn't even discuss it at all.

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[herladyship]

I love people who don't believe in anything they personally haven't experienced for themselves. Oh the ignorance.

I suggest that if you want to know what they're thinking, ask!

[cl_sus4]

that's funny, from someone who's murderously against hard drugs... ¬_¬
:P
i think that the situation is a sticky one.. because people are entitled to be against something they don't agree with

But at the same time.. it's rough to have people dismiss out of hand, something you care about

And this is why I often don't talk to people about stupid things I do until I have come to a more encompassing perspective (which sometimes never comes)

I agree, however, that if it's bothering you (ange) you should bring it up with them, rather than letting them avoid it.

[herladyship]

I "believe" in drugs... I just also know that they're HORRIBLE for you. There's a pretty big difference... her parents are denying the existence of something, not the pros/cons of it.

[cl_sus4]

I'm sure they are aware that polygamy exists and bisexuality exists
They just don't like it
Much in the same way you don't like drugs (m'kay? :D)

Everyone's got their line that they won't cross

[herladyship]

No, Ange was saying that they don't believe in the possibility of bisexuality.

My dad doesn't either. I called him ignorant and he got mad. I've never come out to him and I probably never will.

[synster]

I'm gonna be annoyingly pissy and correct ya here... I'm 'poly' as in polyamory, not polygamy. Polygamy's illegal, polyamory isn't. In most places, anyway... some states actually have LAWS against 'adultery'. *rolls eyes*

[synster]

See... I both want to talk to them about it and I don't. I do, because part of me feels like 'if they can't accept me for who I am then fuck them'... and another part of me says 'they're my parents and I don't want to lose them because they disapprove of what I'm doing'. It's funny, I spent so long while I was living with them desperately looking forward to getting the hell away from them and now... I don't want away from them. I like spending time with them... I just wish they didn't seem to hate who I am.

And see... with all the times they told me that they were very open minded and tolerant of all sexualities and things like that... the bisexual thing really pisses me off a lot. They always used to tell me that it wouldn't bother them at all if I was gay, but since I'm neither gay nor straight apparently I'm in the realm of non-tolerance from them. I wish they didn't see so black-and-white... :(

[cl_sus4]

It's possible (altho I don't know the situation) that it's not the poly or the bi-ness that they are avoidant of. It's possible that there is a 3rd reason that is making these issues seem larger than they are.
Which is why talking may be the best solution. To take away the guesswork.

(the hard part is if they are not aware that there is a 3rd reason.. I've definitely been through that before... subconsciously using one reason to be mad when it's really another)

[synster]

Yeah... aren't they great? So much for open mindedness and tolerance of all sexualities... *sighs* It's great to know that despite me knowing I'm attracted to both men and women, that sexuality doesn't exist... it's all so much clearer now... ;)

[herladyship]

Oh I know... I never feel attraction towards women, either.

[synster]

Isn't it great when life wraps itself up so nicely? ;)