I keep thinking about the discussions that have come up in the comments to my post about sex-positivism and performative sexuality and the concept of bystander consent, and I keep thinking about all the subtle little cues and clues I personally use to separate Okay from Skeevy when people approach me. Talking in the comments there made me realize
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what's kinda refreshing about it is that it's so damn familiar to some (most?) of us, albeit from viewpoints along all different levels of the "being on the receiving end of That Guy" spectrum where "That Guy" and "us" can be of any and all genders. we're intending to have a lucid, open discussion, but at base a lot of us are just mad as hell when we forget where we are. having never been raped, i have the luxury of not being as pissed off as you have every right to be. your expressing that touched a chord, i guess. i... had a point to that, one that DIDN'T sound dumb, but it's moved on.
anyway:
go you. kudos on further discussion. deeply, genuinely sorry for your experience. thanks for sticking with us. cathartic, honest anger, yay!
*deep breath* aaaahhhhhh...
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