okay...
so i talked to my dad. because i decided to say to him - "if you don't understand my migraines, that's fine, you've never had one, but do NOT be rude about it." something akin to that. so anyway, we did start to talk. for hours, actually. (my dad is easy to talk to, honestly, once you get him talking, my mom -- (i love my mom and all) but she's just a bitch to talk to about disagreements/feelings/etc).
so anyway, i told him how i felt about this and that and the other (see post from earlier). now, my main issue with my dad was the snide remarks that he has a penchant for. and some other small things (in this instance, in this situation, let's disregard other things with my dad for now). but my mom is the one that drives me nuts. and she has a penchant for saying "we" about her feelings. when puts my dad in a hole he didn't dig. anyway. my mom was the one who said the "this frustrates us too, think about how WE feel, waaahhh" (which is the number one wrong thing to say to someone in a crisis - be it depression, anxiety, health problems, etc. you do not say to someone who is depressed or having problems with life (in my case, my health is what got me here) anyway, you don't say "think about how we/i feel" "you're doing this to me," you don't heap guilt on people! you just don't. why would you do that? i mean, if you know this person is having issues (particularly depression/anxiety that often always follows health problems) shouldn't you not be selfish and be understanding and try to not make them feel worse? wait, the icing, sugar flowers, candles, and flames on the cake - especially if this person is your child!?!?
am i broken record yet? anyway. so yeah. talking to my dad was nice. then we digressed and had normal conversation (which is always nice with my dad anyway). politics, this and that, how much livejournal helps me, because of the communities i'm in and how i get to help people (my purpose in life) and that makes ME feel better. (this is especially true in the migraines community). and how i've met people i'd have never otherwise met. so yeah, you all rock.
noelle, does this qualify as random, at least a small amount of random? ---> has anyone noticed those deodorants with the "power beads/capsules/time release beady things"? yeah... the little beads don't stay in your armpits. what the hell is the point of that? geez. okay, maybe not so random, i just put deodorant on and i've noticed for weeks that the beady things 1. rarely STICK to my skin and 2. never stay. but... i could PRETEND it was random. or maybe not.
ok, yeah, i'm a geek. sue me.
i think i'm going to start actually using capital letters. out of habit, with AIM usage since i was in middle school, i have not used caps when online, unless it is a professional thing. i know HOW to use caps, i promise. and see, i don't have many typos. and i type about 70 wpm. sometimes closer to 60. and i have a pet peeve of deleting typos whenever i make them. so... now i must move to the next level and use caps. although i think that no caps is kinda... *cute*
♥ i just learned to do that, yay me
so anyway, i told him how i felt about this and that and the other (see post from earlier). now, my main issue with my dad was the snide remarks that he has a penchant for. and some other small things (in this instance, in this situation, let's disregard other things with my dad for now). but my mom is the one that drives me nuts. and she has a penchant for saying "we" about her feelings. when puts my dad in a hole he didn't dig. anyway. my mom was the one who said the "this frustrates us too, think about how WE feel, waaahhh" (which is the number one wrong thing to say to someone in a crisis - be it depression, anxiety, health problems, etc. you do not say to someone who is depressed or having problems with life (in my case, my health is what got me here) anyway, you don't say "think about how we/i feel" "you're doing this to me," you don't heap guilt on people! you just don't. why would you do that? i mean, if you know this person is having issues (particularly depression/anxiety that often always follows health problems) shouldn't you not be selfish and be understanding and try to not make them feel worse? wait, the icing, sugar flowers, candles, and flames on the cake - especially if this person is your child!?!?
am i broken record yet? anyway. so yeah. talking to my dad was nice. then we digressed and had normal conversation (which is always nice with my dad anyway). politics, this and that, how much livejournal helps me, because of the communities i'm in and how i get to help people (my purpose in life) and that makes ME feel better. (this is especially true in the migraines community). and how i've met people i'd have never otherwise met. so yeah, you all rock.
noelle, does this qualify as random, at least a small amount of random? ---> has anyone noticed those deodorants with the "power beads/capsules/time release beady things"? yeah... the little beads don't stay in your armpits. what the hell is the point of that? geez. okay, maybe not so random, i just put deodorant on and i've noticed for weeks that the beady things 1. rarely STICK to my skin and 2. never stay. but... i could PRETEND it was random. or maybe not.
ok, yeah, i'm a geek. sue me.
i think i'm going to start actually using capital letters. out of habit, with AIM usage since i was in middle school, i have not used caps when online, unless it is a professional thing. i know HOW to use caps, i promise. and see, i don't have many typos. and i type about 70 wpm. sometimes closer to 60. and i have a pet peeve of deleting typos whenever i make them. so... now i must move to the next level and use caps. although i think that no caps is kinda... *cute*
♥ i just learned to do that, yay me