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sweetwater07

In other news

Jul 09, 2009 08:26

So my boy and I have been discussing the idea of getting married. We will have dated for three years in August and think that we'll maybe be engaged by the same time next year. We've also been living together for about a year and we're both happy with that decision. I'm feeling really good about the decision although I think I'm just as scared as ( Read more... )

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jifmilitia July 9 2009, 13:28:28 UTC

congrats on your decision! you're right, it's exciting but can be scary. may I ask what you see as the benefits of planning to get married soon? Are you two hoping to start a family? Maybe buy a house together or share insurance-- is it a financial decision? Do you just feel like it's time, and why do you feel that way?

I know I'm so pragmatic about romance things I should be shot in the face:) I AM happy for you, I'm not completely against marriage or anything, I just wonder these things when people make decisions and I always feel weird asking. We should hang out sometime if you don't want to type some involved answer to the world :)

/Thanks LJ!

brittdreams July 9 2009, 15:19:53 UTC

I think Sara and I are thinking along the same lines here, especially about being pragmatic. Are there any particular benefits to getting married sooner rather than later? If he is at all nervous about it, I think you should definitely wait. If you're going to spend your whole lives together, there's really no reason not to go slow.

mystikcode July 9 2009, 16:25:44 UTC

I am going to think like a girl and agree with the other girls. I will also put on a dress for the duration of this comment. But at the same time, I am also happy with the idea. You two balance each other so very well together and it is good to see you both continue to be happy. I would be nervous too, if only because it brings a lot to mind like the other ladies wrote. But still, if you both think about it and the idea makes you both happy, then that is a good thing.

brittdreams July 9 2009, 16:39:59 UTC

What color is the dress?

mystikcode July 9 2009, 16:42:06 UTC

Quiet, you.

sweetwater07 July 9 2009, 16:45:16 UTC

Um, this is Cody. The dress would be black!

Oh, and thanks Cody. Matt's BF said the same thing about us and gave us his blessing.

mystikcode July 10 2009, 17:45:54 UTC

I have photographic evidence that I sadly look ridiculous in a black dress.

Maybe a pastel. Or a hoop skirt.

sweetwater07 July 9 2009, 16:43:32 UTC

See my comment to Sara that explains a lot, but I feel that you should be nervous or scared when you get married. If you aren't then, to me, it shows that you haven't thought about all the bad things that can happen in a marriage. Matt and I both see the future together as being a happy one, but that doesn't mean our eyes aren't wide open to the potential for disaster. I'm scared because its a very grown up decision with a lot of implications and decisions. That being said, we approach the decision and we believe the benefits outweigh the risks.

And we're taking our time. To me, being pragmatic means having a healthy dose of fear or nervousness while also being excited and happy. If he were adverse to the idea or hated the idea then it wouldn't happen. And that is what it is. I told him it was okay if he wasn't ready or didn't want to ever, but he said that wasn't the case. He's a nervous guy and he'll be nervous no matter what. But the point is that we both WANT to.

sweetwater07 July 9 2009, 16:36:23 UTC

I will give you a semi-brief response, but I would love to hang out and debate it further. I love debating stuff like that too ( ... )

jifmilitia July 9 2009, 17:02:10 UTC

oh, yeah, I definitely don't want to debate about it really-- just when people ask me when I'm getting married and I'm like, "I dunno" it makes me wonder if everyone else is privy to some manual or checklist that I've never accessed:)I wholeheartedly agree that many risks are in fact worth taking. I believe long engagements are under rated, too. I'd still like to hang out, though :) Cheap whine and cheese night? Sometime...

sweetwater07 July 9 2009, 18:17:17 UTC

Maybe debate isn't the right word. I do like discussing it. A lot of people have very different ideas about marriage/engagements. I also believe long engagements are great. Living together can also be wonderful, just depends on the people.

But I can copy the manual for you if you like. It spells it out for you. Its like stereo instructions. Hehe j/k

Would you possibly be interested in a wine and cheese night this weekend or next or perhaps a week day?

jifmilitia July 10 2009, 01:06:05 UTC

this weekend would be awesome! what day works for you? we can get together and whoever other girls can, if they can't, screw em!

<3

sweetwater07 July 10 2009, 12:07:48 UTC

Sunday night would work best for me. Matt and I have a friend coming in Saturday night. But after Saturday they should be happy just playing some sort of zombie video game together. What time? Oh and can I get your number again? If you have mine just text me. My old phone died and we couldn't recover the numbers from it. I'm still collecting numbers.

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