Jun 22, 2006 18:38
there are boundaries in every relationship... and i think tommy's mother totally overstepped hers:
after a slight conflict concerning memorial day (which didn't really even involve her-- she just heard bits and pieces), my boyfriend's mother has been giving me the cold shoulder. after the first week or so, i offered an apology to just kinda "clear the air" and give her a chance to say anything she felt she needed to say-- everything seemed just fine.
but then, a day later or so, when i see her again-- i get the distinct bite of the cold shoulder again, but this time it's from his dad too! wtf?? i thought i'd made everything better already.
i asked tommy to ask his parents what was up, and this was the answer he gave me tonight:
"she just doesn't know what's gonna happen to us, what with your temperment and all and she doesn't want you to get too attached when/if we break up."
he then went on to explain that she was concerned and he told her that i had been really stressed out about the apartment and everything, so i was really worn down. she followed by asking him "how he was handling it or if he could handle it and he said, "yeah, i'm fine...we're fine."
maybe i shouldn't be as disgruntled about this whole thing as i am, but i really feel like she's taking some inappropriate license in critiquing me.... and further more, continuing to "black list" me even after tommy has explicitly explained what the situation was that i was dealing with (which #1 was extremely stressful and, #2-- was none of her goddamn business).
so i'm totally torn now. my pride (the stronger/more easily insulted attribute) is telling me to just throw in the towel-- who wants to deal with that kind of family bullshit this week, let alone the rest of my life-- like "hey mom... you're so worried about keeping your precious little baby boy away from the mean old jersey girl-- good you can fucking have him. my standards just recently upped their tax bracket clause, and revised the genetics section to exclude those people with obesity in their genes." (yes, that was low-- but hey, i never said my pride played nice with others).
my heart, although thoroughly wounded by her opinion tells me that this is just one of the battles i have to survive. it can't last forever, and besides-- he's worth it.
i guess i just have to decide if i'm more nice and loving or proud. unfortunately, i think we know the answer to that one.