Ya know.. I was gonna just let y'all know how I'm doin and everything.. but I decided to rant on something that's been botherin me and I know many others as well
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Oooooh, the topic of dating outside the church. I'm pretty new to this journal thing, so I don't know what people have said in other posts, but here are my thoughts. I haven't and will not date outside of the church because I can't imagine having the close bond of marriage with someone without sharing my faith with him. How could you have a complete relationship with someone who doesn't appreciate your #1 priority? I don't want to offend anyone here...my mom is in the church and my dad is not, and they've made it work. So if you're in my boat, I know what you're going through! But when they got married, they were both in the faith. I don't think you should purposefully go into a relationship with someone knowing that you don't see eye to eye on religion. Religious disagreement is in the top 3 reasons for marital problems and divorce. Onto the comment about men not being what they used to be....yes, I definitely agree. I think that nowadays guys in the church assume that girls in the church will date them because (and only because) they are in the church. In general, (IN GENERAL!) they don't seem very driven to better themselves because the church dating scene isn't very competitive. I don't want to be hatin' on the guys here, so I'll stop. Guys, keep this in mind. We still have standards, even if you are in the church. :)
Re: good one!sweetsylviaSeptember 1 2004, 16:32:26 UTC
Well I understand where you're comin from w/ the parents in and out of church, my parents divorced b/c of church. I'm w/ you, I can't imagine not sharin the biggest part of my life w/ my future mate. But sometimes, it's so hard to realize the guys in the church aren't gonna be perfect, but like you said.. I do have my standards. Maybe we'll all straighten up and get in serious relationships (if willing and ready, hehe). Thanks for commenting! :)
Re: good one!superfarmertanSeptember 4 2004, 16:42:29 UTC
ok now I am a guy and i know ya'll have standards(tho some of the standards are kinda out there fro some people)... but i to have standards. So if ya'll can tell guys to "step it up" I am going to also. "Women step it up". But one question for you. WOuld you even want to date a guy that Does not want to better themselves, are they really in the church? It just shows their true colors. Better to see them as how they are now.
Re: good one!sweetsylviaSeptember 4 2004, 23:27:55 UTC
Tommy, I didn't mean this post to be just about the guys steppin up. I was leanin more toward everyone playin their correct role. And to answer your question, no I wouldn't want to date a guy that doesn't want to better himself. I don't want someone who's just goin w/ the motions, but someone who's sincere in his beliefs and isn't a hypocrite about it. That's why it's so hard to find guys like that, b/c a lot of them are doin it b/c their parents are doin it or b/c it makes them different or something. Whatever their reasoning is, I want no part of that, I need someone who's gonna be righteous for the rest of his life and not have to worry about whether or not he's sincere.
Onto the comment about men not being what they used to be....yes, I definitely agree. I think that nowadays guys in the church assume that girls in the church will date them because (and only because) they are in the church. In general, (IN GENERAL!) they don't seem very driven to better themselves because the church dating scene isn't very competitive. I don't want to be hatin' on the guys here, so I'll stop. Guys, keep this in mind. We still have standards, even if you are in the church. :)
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