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[sweetestsiren]

 I know I never really post, but I guess I'm feeling particularly introspective with the start of the new year.

My cousin Ryan said something a few days ago about relationships that's been on my mind for a few days: "Movies have ruined relationships for girls. They have this ideal of meeting someone perfect and it all just working out." I started

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[finishthehat]

I know we've talked about this a lot, but for me I think it's a combination of things. I've had experiences where I've hit it off with someone right away, and felt that kind of stuff-of-fantasies instant attraction. And even though I know full-well that that is not always how it goes, I find myself expecting and seeking that. For the most part for me, though, it is nothing more than a fear of putting myself out there. Like I've said to you many times before, it's just that I don't know what to do. I know that I'm a little awkward and a little shy, and it just seems like every time I'm getting hit on or asked out or asked for my phone number, it's by someone to whom I see no attraction, and in whom I have no interest. And even if I know you can't have that kind of serious attraction right away, IF I'm going to be attracted to someone at all, I usually do feel at least a spark of it right away, since I have a pretty definitive type. But I often feel like I'm in this place of having been discouraged, and just being lazy and not wanting to deal with it. I want to be dating, in a relationship, even, but I don't even know where to start. As far as sex, I think we could all get it if we wanted it -- but I think built-in to the situation is this notion of, well, I've waited this long, I don't want to just throw it away on some random dude. I dunno. JMO.

[sweetestsiren]

Yeah, I agree with a lot of this. I think the anxiety about putting myself out there/fear of rejection does in some sense prevent me from pursuing people I do find attractive. Maybe being too passive about it and avoiding risks is something I need to get over. And definitely agreed on the last part.