JH
I was reading alf's blog... and all the talks about best friends, normal friends and boyfriends and all...
I realised it's in me too... when I start to date someone.. it is true that i spend much lesser time with my friends... but it also don on me that in the past, i prioritise my friends as much as my lover.. that probably resulted in the failed relationship with B.
This brings to mind that I pissed jian hao off a while ago. I don't think I was wrong, because I'm entitled to my own views, but the way i expressed it was SO WRONG... he felt that i was demeaning.. and i felt guilty for being blunt.. for being me... I could defend myself by saying 'I'm blunt because ur my good fren, u shud be able to take commends and criticisms from me!' But OBVIOUSLY i have quite neglected the plus points he has. Above all, my bluntness simply hurt. I've always been a victim of oversensitivity, why did i not put myself in his shoes this time round?
I sincerely apologise to him.
I guess if I call him a good friend, I ought to respect him for who he is.. be it a crook or a respectable SOH... he IS accepted as a whole as a friend.
I realised it's in me too... when I start to date someone.. it is true that i spend much lesser time with my friends... but it also don on me that in the past, i prioritise my friends as much as my lover.. that probably resulted in the failed relationship with B.
This brings to mind that I pissed jian hao off a while ago. I don't think I was wrong, because I'm entitled to my own views, but the way i expressed it was SO WRONG... he felt that i was demeaning.. and i felt guilty for being blunt.. for being me... I could defend myself by saying 'I'm blunt because ur my good fren, u shud be able to take commends and criticisms from me!' But OBVIOUSLY i have quite neglected the plus points he has. Above all, my bluntness simply hurt. I've always been a victim of oversensitivity, why did i not put myself in his shoes this time round?
I sincerely apologise to him.
I guess if I call him a good friend, I ought to respect him for who he is.. be it a crook or a respectable SOH... he IS accepted as a whole as a friend.