Yes, this first stage is bloody hard. Does S. want his stuff soon? I'd suggest you box up everything that is his - clothing, ornaments, photographs, music, everything - seal it up with packing tape and stack it somewhere out of the way. I'd suggest you get a new pillow and mattress topper, too - that won't have his scent on them. Sounds ridiculously primal, but it makes a huge difference for some.
Does the house you viewed have possibility of loft conversion maybe? It's amazing what can be done if the roof has a reasonable height - dormer windows or Velux, compact spiral or ship's staircase - our loft is a wonderful addition to our living space.
Sadly, you're probably right about S. not being that bothered. Right now, he's probably feeling only relief. The regret will come later - by which time you'll have moved on and be driving confidently around, in your own place with your kids, wanting nothing from S. but his absence! It DOES happen, and that's when a bloke suddenly realises what he's thrown away. And can't get back. Ever. It may take months, maybe a year, but the day WILL come when he is swamped in bitter regret and self-pity, and you'll sashay by with a new, proper man, and it won't be revenge exactly, but karma.
Does the house you viewed have possibility of loft conversion maybe? It's amazing what can be done if the roof has a reasonable height - dormer windows or Velux, compact spiral or ship's staircase - our loft is a wonderful addition to our living space.
Sadly, you're probably right about S. not being that bothered. Right now, he's probably feeling only relief. The regret will come later - by which time you'll have moved on and be driving confidently around, in your own place with your kids, wanting nothing from S. but his absence! It DOES happen, and that's when a bloke suddenly realises what he's thrown away. And can't get back. Ever. It may take months, maybe a year, but the day WILL come when he is swamped in bitter regret and self-pity, and you'll sashay by with a new, proper man, and it won't be revenge exactly, but karma.
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