other stuff from the last couple weeks
+my therapist called, because I haven't been in since...June? or July? in a long time, and she needs to close the case. BUUUUUUUUT she has her own practice that she runs out of her home office and she only charges $70/session. Which is good, since I obviously need help.
-Husband's mistress GOT IN LINE BEHIND ME at Target when I ran out on my break for cold meds early in the week. Not on purpose, I don't think, because her body language was totally...off. She was avoiding eye contact and super stiff and got the hell out as fast as humanly possible. I was proud of myself because I managed not to pull her hair, punch her in the face, kick her in the shins, spit on her, or tell her exactly what I think of her. I'm better than that. But still, she took up WAY too much space in my head for the rest of the day
-got an email guilt trip from my MIL because she's had Collin the last several weekends, and he's "sad" because he "misses Zoey," and while she doesn't know how Jeff and I reached the decision that I would keep her, could we try to work something out so that Collin could see his dog. So inappropriate
+I waited a couple days and sent her a response I was pretty proud of:
MIL
My intention was to forward your message to Jeff and allow him to handle it. That is where you need to direct any concerns you may have about your grandchildren or anything else that pertains to the Fox household--to your son. Perhaps it was a misunderstanding, but when I contacted you previously to see if you would help me see the children I spent ten years helping raise, I felt as though you blew me off. Then you and Jeff decided that was an inappropriate lack of respect for boundaries. I didn't think so, but I'm not their parent, so I'm not the one who gets to make that call. You don't get to have it all ways. If it's not okay for me to contact you regarding the children, then it's not okay for you to contact me. I will not be yanked back and forth.
None of this was my choice. It was not and is not what I want for myself or my family. I am doing the best I can to take care of myself through the impact of decisions made by someone else.
Diana
She then replied:
Diana
I really appreciate you explaining how you are feeling. I meant no harm when I sent it to you and you are completely right I should have discussed it with Jeff. My concern for Collin made me want to fix it for him and not consider how it would make you feel. I also appologize.
Take care,
MIL
Her response was sent less than 10 minutes after the message I sent her. You could have knocked me over with a feather. Really? She's sorry? Response made me wonder if, until I said so, she had no clue that a divorce is the last thing I want, that this is all Jeff. Doesn't matter, really, but it made me wonder
-Husband's mistress GOT IN LINE BEHIND ME at Target when I ran out on my break for cold meds early in the week. Not on purpose, I don't think, because her body language was totally...off. She was avoiding eye contact and super stiff and got the hell out as fast as humanly possible. I was proud of myself because I managed not to pull her hair, punch her in the face, kick her in the shins, spit on her, or tell her exactly what I think of her. I'm better than that. But still, she took up WAY too much space in my head for the rest of the day
-got an email guilt trip from my MIL because she's had Collin the last several weekends, and he's "sad" because he "misses Zoey," and while she doesn't know how Jeff and I reached the decision that I would keep her, could we try to work something out so that Collin could see his dog. So inappropriate
+I waited a couple days and sent her a response I was pretty proud of:
MIL
My intention was to forward your message to Jeff and allow him to handle it. That is where you need to direct any concerns you may have about your grandchildren or anything else that pertains to the Fox household--to your son. Perhaps it was a misunderstanding, but when I contacted you previously to see if you would help me see the children I spent ten years helping raise, I felt as though you blew me off. Then you and Jeff decided that was an inappropriate lack of respect for boundaries. I didn't think so, but I'm not their parent, so I'm not the one who gets to make that call. You don't get to have it all ways. If it's not okay for me to contact you regarding the children, then it's not okay for you to contact me. I will not be yanked back and forth.
None of this was my choice. It was not and is not what I want for myself or my family. I am doing the best I can to take care of myself through the impact of decisions made by someone else.
Diana
She then replied:
Diana
I really appreciate you explaining how you are feeling. I meant no harm when I sent it to you and you are completely right I should have discussed it with Jeff. My concern for Collin made me want to fix it for him and not consider how it would make you feel. I also appologize.
Take care,
MIL
Her response was sent less than 10 minutes after the message I sent her. You could have knocked me over with a feather. Really? She's sorry? Response made me wonder if, until I said so, she had no clue that a divorce is the last thing I want, that this is all Jeff. Doesn't matter, really, but it made me wonder