Read if you dare but you might be left out if you didn't travel over from Christian wives forum!!
I just wanted to clarify something and so I came to my journal to do it. I was getting lost among the sea of reply's and comments on the christian wives forum. I was worried about being misunderstood when I wrote a comment about submission and I think I was. Among all of the chaos of the forum I'm not even sure what I mean't any more. If you read a lot of the post, comments, and replies we were all saying the same things. We are just hung up with the terminology. Where I would use the word submissive others would use equals. I am really tired of those two words. I think what I mean more than submissive is respectful (maybe). I wish I could say come into my home and watch me for a day. I bet a lot of people would find that the dynamics of my home are a lot like yours. I especially believe that Jukelab :) and I are debating the same thing. Jule Ann I read your comments and the examples that you give (moving and sex) are both ways that my husband and I would have handled things. I use the word submissive because it is the more traditional terminology. Equal seems so harsh to Me. I know I sound like a prude now. I just mean whenever I hear equal it's like equality in all things and some times at all costs. I don't find husbands and wives to be equal in all things but strong at different points and combined become one flesh. Does that make any sense? I don't believe either one of us can be whole people in a marriage. Not saying we can't be strong, have our own opinions, or be an independent, functioning and unique human being. But in marriage we are to become one flesh. So where I have weaknesses Charlie has strengths and vice versa. We complete each other. So being equal (to me) means not needing each other to be complete in a marriage. As for Him being the head of the household. In no way did I mean it to sound like we do it all His way no matter what I say. It's just that we consider ourselves one flesh. You know that saying "the left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing". That doesn't happen here (99.9%of the time). We are one body and Christ is our head. It all comes from Christ. I am more of the teacher. I find scriptures and I speak truths to Charlie when I feel compelled to. I don't know how to describe what He is to Me. It's like taking a vacation. I make sure everything we need is packed, I coordinate the money, and chances are I make sure that things are left organized. Charlie worked for the money, He thought about the driving route and made sure the maintenance was done on the car. Please tell me this makes sense!! Anyway in closing. I just am trying to reach out to Jule Ann who I value as an online friend and respect as a intelligent debater. I was just a little frustrated because I could see we agreed on almost everything but we were messing it up with our choice of words!!