a Rant against happiness conditional on males
I have, throughout the past several years noted a disturbing trend among my female friends and aquaintances. There seems to be an assumption that you can only find happiness with a male.
I have no problems with girls seeking a male to share their life with. I am, in fact, seeking one myself. But the certainty that you can not be happy unless you're in a relationship with someone freaks me the hell out. The reason that these girls are usually unhappy is because they feel lonely and have no one to share their feelings and emotions with.
The weird part is that not that they have no one to share their problems with and no one from whom to recieve emotional support but that they refuse to make themselves emotionally vurlunable to anyone except a male with whom they are in a romantic relationship.
Am I insane or does this make no sense?
How does someone having a cock make them worthy of you confiding in them or trusting them? How can you get more emotional support from some guy you met a month ago then family and friends who have known you for years? Especially since most guys can't do emotional support worth crap.
Even if you think that the ideal situation is to have a romantic relationship with a guy who can be your everything and the closest person to you. Why is it that while you are single and can't find anyone and miserable that you can't go for your emotional needs to the people around you who love you? Most of these girls have family and friends! It's not that I'm ranting 'why doesn't she come to me!', some of these girls I'd be happy to be there for, others I wouldn't really want to be that close with but they all have someone they could go to. And even if you assume that they people they have available are all deficient in some ways, none of them are actively looking for female friends, only for males. Why????
I think it is dispicably weak (as judgemental as that statement is) to be unable to find happiness by yourself and to depend on males just because they're male. If you can not achieve success in your school/career and find pride and satisfaction in this, if you can not build yourself a life with those activities that bring you pleasure, if you can not find people who care for you and that you can share with (especially when they're all around you) then I'm sorry, but you're bloody well pathetic.
What makes me so very angry is of course the fact that I care greatly about some girls who just can't seem to open up to anyone not male and thus are unhappy and it fucking kills me.
Oh, and this isn't because of the sex because it all works just the same when I know that the parties are not having sex etc.
*Ahgrr*
In other news I hope to finally send off my bloody applications this week. However in order for this to happen I need to force myself to go polish my statement right now , after having spent something like ten hours on the stupid thing this weekend so far. *Rar*
P.S. The icon is my attempt at wish fufilment. I am Zen. I am Zen. Very Zen.
I have no problems with girls seeking a male to share their life with. I am, in fact, seeking one myself. But the certainty that you can not be happy unless you're in a relationship with someone freaks me the hell out. The reason that these girls are usually unhappy is because they feel lonely and have no one to share their feelings and emotions with.
The weird part is that not that they have no one to share their problems with and no one from whom to recieve emotional support but that they refuse to make themselves emotionally vurlunable to anyone except a male with whom they are in a romantic relationship.
Am I insane or does this make no sense?
How does someone having a cock make them worthy of you confiding in them or trusting them? How can you get more emotional support from some guy you met a month ago then family and friends who have known you for years? Especially since most guys can't do emotional support worth crap.
Even if you think that the ideal situation is to have a romantic relationship with a guy who can be your everything and the closest person to you. Why is it that while you are single and can't find anyone and miserable that you can't go for your emotional needs to the people around you who love you? Most of these girls have family and friends! It's not that I'm ranting 'why doesn't she come to me!', some of these girls I'd be happy to be there for, others I wouldn't really want to be that close with but they all have someone they could go to. And even if you assume that they people they have available are all deficient in some ways, none of them are actively looking for female friends, only for males. Why????
I think it is dispicably weak (as judgemental as that statement is) to be unable to find happiness by yourself and to depend on males just because they're male. If you can not achieve success in your school/career and find pride and satisfaction in this, if you can not build yourself a life with those activities that bring you pleasure, if you can not find people who care for you and that you can share with (especially when they're all around you) then I'm sorry, but you're bloody well pathetic.
What makes me so very angry is of course the fact that I care greatly about some girls who just can't seem to open up to anyone not male and thus are unhappy and it fucking kills me.
Oh, and this isn't because of the sex because it all works just the same when I know that the parties are not having sex etc.
*Ahgrr*
In other news I hope to finally send off my bloody applications this week. However in order for this to happen I need to force myself to go polish my statement right now , after having spent something like ten hours on the stupid thing this weekend so far. *Rar*
P.S. The icon is my attempt at wish fufilment. I am Zen. I am Zen. Very Zen.