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so I have this friend who is having some issues in her life and she is in some need of comfort. I offered to stay the night on friday and keep her company to help get through this time. when I mentioned it to my husband the next morning he said he was uncomfortable with it. so we talked for a while about it and he finally said I could go. but I decided that if it made him uncomfortable at all then I wouldn't go because he is my best friend and husband. the one who will be with me forever. I do put him above all my friends and family and truly respect his opinion. So I called her and told her I wasn't going to stay the night because of that. she never called back. I saw her at work when I stopped in and she was totally mad at me. she said her feelings were hurt that he said it made him uncomfortable...what?? I think that he doesn't want me to be somewhere where there might be husband bashing or what not, even though thats not the case at all, that might be how he sees it. I don't know. regardless, I chose not to go... and now she's mad at me. We are supposed to put our spouse above our friends and she should understand that. I feel terrible that she's made at me and had her feelings hurt because that was not my intention at all. the only thing I could have done differently is to have talked to my hubby first before making plans. I feel awful and apologized to her that I was taking back my plans, but ultimately I am honoring my husband and that is most important. wow, I know that her life is hard right now and it probably just feels like one more person copping out on her and that is what makes me feel most terrible.