I feel I should post
Someday I hope my daughters have what I have. A beautiful group of strong women to belong to, to share a primitive oneness with, to support and be supported. Through the years I have accepted weirdos, assholes, jerks, druggies, preppies, just about any kind of man you could dredge up, I've accepted. Know why? They were dating my best friends. If it was blatantly obvious the guy was no good, attempts were made to get the girl to see the light, but after she was adamant on her position of love towards the man, I simply accepted. If there hadn't been acceptance, there would have been emptiness. I can recall at least once where I knew, if I didn't befriend the hated boyfriend, that no one, and I mean no one liked; then it was obvious that I wouldn't be able to spend time with my friend. The guy was possessive and a complete...well a complete many things, of which none of them were good. My friend was hell bent on marrying this man and having his children. My philosophy went: I want to be able to have my friend over for dinner and vice versa. I guess that means her husband has to be able to stand me. Regardless and surprisingly that little anecdote is not the point of this blog. The point is this: the consequences and rewards for coming into our group. I realize that sounds cultish...and this is all very cyclic and muddled, but bear with me. If for boyfriends we are willing to accept and deal with, imagine what we would do for the "one"?
Those men will be borne into a family so tight they might not ever understand it, but they will be mightily and fiercely loved in a way that only these women could. When my friends get married, whatever men they bind themselves to will know they have my backing and my ultimate love just as my "sisters" do. It means a lot, to know that your extended family is protected and taken care of and loved. It's not that you can't do it anymore, it's just that now you have help and immediate help at that.
I suppose it has to do with loyalty and hope and ultimately love_which truly can accomplish all things. It also requires patients to want something so wonderful for your friends while they take their time in getting there. Ups and downs_life is full of them and we must perservere.
Those men will be borne into a family so tight they might not ever understand it, but they will be mightily and fiercely loved in a way that only these women could. When my friends get married, whatever men they bind themselves to will know they have my backing and my ultimate love just as my "sisters" do. It means a lot, to know that your extended family is protected and taken care of and loved. It's not that you can't do it anymore, it's just that now you have help and immediate help at that.
I suppose it has to do with loyalty and hope and ultimately love_which truly can accomplish all things. It also requires patients to want something so wonderful for your friends while they take their time in getting there. Ups and downs_life is full of them and we must perservere.