I too was amused by people talking about how un-traditional the wedding was, having spent serious amounts of time at Offbeatbride and Indiebride and all those other sites. I think had I forced certain people to peruse those sites as well, things would have been easier. "At least I'm not getting married while sky diving. Count your fucking blessings."
Yeah, it's interesting the things people make a fuss about. Sure it looked distinctive, but the actual wedding was very traditional. Bible verses, sermon, soft pretty music. It was gorgeous, personalized, and traditional.
I don't know as much about traditional Jewish ceremonies as Christian ceremonies, but I got the feeling that was somewhat the case with your (lovely :D) wedding as well...am I correct in this?
Ours was ... a bit skewed but still mostly traditional. It was tricky because my (feminist) rabbi and I ran into some conflicts with me wanting things more traditional than he was okay with. A traditional Jewish wedding is very patriarchal - male acquiring the bride, that sort of thing - which I was okay with given the ... dynamic of Andrew and I's relationship; I really didn't mind the idea of being acquired. But I couldn't really explain that to my Rabbi ;-) So we had to shuffle some things out of order in order to get everything the way I wanted but still make him comfortable.
The Zelda and Final Fantasy music is definitely NOT a traditional Jewish wedding component. Other than that, though, most of the stuff I thought I was being "offbeat" about is actually traditional for a Jewish wedding (as I discovered in my reading). Like, the bride and the groom BOTH going down the aisle, being escorted by both parents, the groom being in white, etc.
I stole a lot of ideas from what I understood to be traditional Jewish ceremonies, incl. most of what you mention in the last paragraph. I especially loved the idea of both of us walking with our parents (I toyed with the idea of doing away with that altogether and having us just walk in together, but I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings).
I do remember reading about your particular difficulties on OBB tribe after the fact, and I just laughed, imagining the look on the rabbi's face. "Oh, that Anie."
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The Zelda and Final Fantasy music is definitely NOT a traditional Jewish wedding component. Other than that, though, most of the stuff I thought I was being "offbeat" about is actually traditional for a Jewish wedding (as I discovered in my reading). Like, the bride and the groom BOTH going down the aisle, being escorted by both parents, the groom being in white, etc.
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I do remember reading about your particular difficulties on OBB tribe after the fact, and I just laughed, imagining the look on the rabbi's face. "Oh, that Anie."
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