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People really aren't that different...no matter where you go. I was sitting in the teacher's computer lab today and one of the teachers who just got married this Friday, Sarah, was talking to my teacher about her new husband, basically telling the story of how they met. They met on the Internet, dated for like 5 months, etc. etc. pretty typical, and then my teacher asked her what made them decide to get married so soon. And what she said next completely shocked me. She said "Well, we're both 32, and we haven't found anyone at this point yet that we like that much, so we decided we'd give it a shot. He's got a lot of issues though." It was unbelievable.
Why would you give up your independence like that? Why would you put yourself in a situation that is most likely going to end in failure? I love being single...I can't speak for being 32, but at this point in time I have 2 close friends getting married, another who will probably be engaged by the end of the semester, a roommate who has had more boyfriends/flings then I can keep track of, but you know what? I'm ok with it. I'm at a point in my life where I think I'm really realizing my own independence, and it's awesome. You have so much more freedom, you can go where you want, talk to who you want, hang out with who you want without some possessive boy getting incredibly angry and making you cry about it. Plus, 32 is not that old! I went to a wedding this summer where the girl was 34, and the boy was almost 36, and they refused to settle for just whoever came along...they waited for the person that was intended for them. What's the big stinkin' rush? Why are people so insanely set on being married so early in life? "Til death do us part" is now into the 80's thanks to modern medicine.
Maybe I'm just a late bloomer...I have reached certain rites of passage much later in my life then most people, but it's ok. I'm doing things at my own pace, and relishing the experience of figuring it out for myself instead of letting people dictate my feelings and actions.
So maybe I have issues with control. Maybe i've gone to the complete opposite end of the spectrum, but there's just so much I want to do right now, and I don't know if I'd be capable of doing like Charissa or Carina or Megan are doing/did and get married and solidly commit myself to anyone. I really think I might not be mature enough or selfless enough....that sort of stuff requires a lot of work and committment. I don't know if I have it in me...what if I screw it up? What if I get to the point like the teacher Sarah and am so lonely/desparate/feeling old and washed up that I just marry the first bloke that comes along? I think I'd rather be single for the rest of my life...at least then I'd get to maintain my independence.
I don't know if any of that even made sense. I don't really care. All that stuff is so confusing.
Why would you give up your independence like that? Why would you put yourself in a situation that is most likely going to end in failure? I love being single...I can't speak for being 32, but at this point in time I have 2 close friends getting married, another who will probably be engaged by the end of the semester, a roommate who has had more boyfriends/flings then I can keep track of, but you know what? I'm ok with it. I'm at a point in my life where I think I'm really realizing my own independence, and it's awesome. You have so much more freedom, you can go where you want, talk to who you want, hang out with who you want without some possessive boy getting incredibly angry and making you cry about it. Plus, 32 is not that old! I went to a wedding this summer where the girl was 34, and the boy was almost 36, and they refused to settle for just whoever came along...they waited for the person that was intended for them. What's the big stinkin' rush? Why are people so insanely set on being married so early in life? "Til death do us part" is now into the 80's thanks to modern medicine.
Maybe I'm just a late bloomer...I have reached certain rites of passage much later in my life then most people, but it's ok. I'm doing things at my own pace, and relishing the experience of figuring it out for myself instead of letting people dictate my feelings and actions.
So maybe I have issues with control. Maybe i've gone to the complete opposite end of the spectrum, but there's just so much I want to do right now, and I don't know if I'd be capable of doing like Charissa or Carina or Megan are doing/did and get married and solidly commit myself to anyone. I really think I might not be mature enough or selfless enough....that sort of stuff requires a lot of work and committment. I don't know if I have it in me...what if I screw it up? What if I get to the point like the teacher Sarah and am so lonely/desparate/feeling old and washed up that I just marry the first bloke that comes along? I think I'd rather be single for the rest of my life...at least then I'd get to maintain my independence.
I don't know if any of that even made sense. I don't really care. All that stuff is so confusing.