Change is good
" Did you ever do this, you think back on all the times you've had with someone and you just replay it in your head over and over again and you look for those first signs of trouble? "
I think the reason it is so hard for people to get over breakups is because when they replay their past memories they see them better than it actually was. When people look back, they only remember the good times and overlook the bad. People put they're shitty relationships on a pedestal after they breakup when it does not belong on one. I am guilty for this. When me and Colin broke up I naturally wanted to try harder to make it work. But breakups happen for a reason. It's not some random thing that just comes out of nowhere. We are both at completely different places in our life and want/need different things. I want so badly for us to work but I don't think he's ever going to change. We are never going to work out. Why can't I just accept that? Ughh.
The constant theme throughout my blogs is how I am scared of change. As ironic as this may sound, change is the only thing that is consistent in our lives. Change is an essential element of life itself, yet we almost instinctively resist it. So then, how are we suppose to deal with change? I guess dealing with change is kind of like dealing with unfamiliar emotions (like being sad). It begins with acceptance. Most people think that if you ignore something long enough it will go away. That if you ignore change it eventually won't happen; wrongggggg. I am slowly slowly coming to terms with this break up. I don't know exactly how to deal with change but I know it would suck if you missed out on the right guy because you were to scared to let go of the wrong one.
I think the reason it is so hard for people to get over breakups is because when they replay their past memories they see them better than it actually was. When people look back, they only remember the good times and overlook the bad. People put they're shitty relationships on a pedestal after they breakup when it does not belong on one. I am guilty for this. When me and Colin broke up I naturally wanted to try harder to make it work. But breakups happen for a reason. It's not some random thing that just comes out of nowhere. We are both at completely different places in our life and want/need different things. I want so badly for us to work but I don't think he's ever going to change. We are never going to work out. Why can't I just accept that? Ughh.
The constant theme throughout my blogs is how I am scared of change. As ironic as this may sound, change is the only thing that is consistent in our lives. Change is an essential element of life itself, yet we almost instinctively resist it. So then, how are we suppose to deal with change? I guess dealing with change is kind of like dealing with unfamiliar emotions (like being sad). It begins with acceptance. Most people think that if you ignore something long enough it will go away. That if you ignore change it eventually won't happen; wrongggggg. I am slowly slowly coming to terms with this break up. I don't know exactly how to deal with change but I know it would suck if you missed out on the right guy because you were to scared to let go of the wrong one.